I am really glad that you are here. This is a good place to vent and tell it how it was and how it is now... wish that there was more participation. I think it's very typical of women who have experience any kind of bariatric surgery and lost huge amounts of weight, to want to hide when they regain or start to gain weight. So consequently, not many are telling the truth and are sitting in the dark too ashamed to bring the elephant or the dragon out into the light of day. We are only as sick as our secrets. You are miles ahead, reaching out is the solution... the first act of coming to aid for yourself. Good on you!! Don't stop making noise and looking for help!
I am 4 years post op and have maintained my nearly 100 lb loss for that period of time, until this last Nov. I have no idea what happened, if anything at all, but I completely turned into a shark and just was swimming around with my mouth hanging open. My food choices were good, but somewhere in there I started to graze and simply did not seem like I was ever going to be able to stop. At the 7 pound mark of gaining I started to completely freak out and the scale continued upward. Long about 12 pounds I was panicking beyond relief and struggling to get back to 'normal', BY MYSELF. I Kept thinking that this was nuts, I can do this blah blah and then finally I started looking for help, support, others that were the same as me to help me. I returned to doing the things that I know to do that work (which is the definition of wisdom). Started keeping a food log (my fitness pal.com) and amazingly that started to help reel things in a bit. I wasn't bingeing, but I was scared that I had stretched everything out. I did a pouch reset regime for a few days and that helped to restore that instructive feeling of being full. Just the act of doing positive things for myself calmed the panic. Since the bariatric support in this area completely sucks I started going to OA meetings just so I could talk about the gain and the craziness that goes with it. What I didn't do was beat myself up, ever. I don't do that anymore and haven't for years. I don't deserve that.
So, you're on the right track. I am assuming that you have found another bariatric surgeon that you are checking in with now. That would be the first order of the day given the other complication and just because we all need to have our labs run every year by folks that know what they are doing.
Those of us that are here will listen and give you feedback as best we can. You are in my thoughts.