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[MamaBearOf4]

I got told last night by my youngest son that he does not love me because I was too fat. I did not whoop him or anything but I tried to talk to him and he would just repeat the same thing. I left it alone and decided not to reward him with toys or out to eat any more until he understands how he hurt people with his words. So today we went to do laundry and he wanted a toy I told him no. Then on the way home he wanted pizza again it was a no. Talked to my husband about it and he told me to tell him since he does not like fat people then I don't like short people. i did not do that. I would never talk to my boys like that. So I left it alone. When I refused to get him what he wanted he told me that his dad only cared about him and not me. I left it alone and walked away to go cook. I know my triggers. Depression is a trigger to eat but stress is my trigger to starve myself. So my body has been wanting to eat extra but then at the same time I feel like throwing up. I thought that I handled the situation good but when posted something on the facebook group alot of people started saying I was a bad mother and this and that. I even had one girl to go through all my pictures and tell me I always talk bad about my kids. It was a halloween pic that she seen. It was said as a joke and he knows it. But the people there kept telling me I am a bad mother and then they kicked me out of the group

 

[MamaBearOf4]

Yesterday all I wanted to do is eat from depression but today I sat him down and found out where it was coming from. I band the kid from my house. It was a boy that is always at my house playing with my kids. He was talking about me while he was with my 5 year old. I guess the little boy knew not to talk about me with my older kids around because they will do something about it. But my 5 year old has never been through this. So of course he did not know. But now he does. Hopefully he will be me thoughtful of what he says.

 

[MamaBearOf4]

Today I am just super stressed because the boy keeps trying to yelling stuff out towards me and the kids. His dad has no control over him. He even cussed his dad out and yelled at him. I am glad I have taught my kids better then that.

 

[MamaBearOf4]

the people that started telling me i am a bad mother was people I never heard from. I have my facebook but I barely get on it. The surgeon suggested I get in the group. Well he had to understand that the group banded me because they decided was a problem. But I posted almost the same thing I posted here.

 

[MamaBearOf4]

Thank Diane. I am not worried about that group. I have figure out where my son heard the bashing of me being so big and I sent the kids away from my house and banded him from playing with my kids. i did it more because when my older kids heard it they was ready to fight the little boy. Little Miguel was talked to about who was more important in his life. Because without me he would not be here. He understands now to stand up for the family members. This is why I do not post anything about my surgery on my normal facebook page. I know people there that is supportive but I would rather keep my busy off of my regular page. I have not even posted a new picture of my self since the beginning of the year. I post about my boys when they are doing something good or when they are being goofy but anything about me I really don't post. I don't want none of their opinions on my life for my self. I only keep it because I have old friends that I knew when my mother was alive and we grew a bond like a family. My mom's friends checks on me from there. My father's brothers and sisters check on me. My mom side does not do nothing but watch my page to be able to say they are better then me. But my reasons are for other people. A family I never knew when I was little and friends that became family. Now I just have more people to add as family here. My mother always told me if the bond gets to apoint that you respect more their advice then anyone else's then they have became a member of your family. So Diane welcome to my own built family. I love you advice and I like your advice better then most of the ones that came across the facebook group. There are good people here and I am happy to be in this room then the other.