Im at a complete loss as to what to do.my mother has this surgery back in February and she had nothing but nonstop complications and even had to have to get a second surgery to correct some freak accident. On top of that she ended up wkth a bleedong ulcer. Couple months into it and she's still not Really eating much of anything and now has to be on these infusions twice a week. How do I help?? Cause I'm losing my my mind!!!
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Texnoble
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Ataloss- Sorry to hear about your mother's issues. Eating might not be indicated right now while she recovers. Maintaining her hydration, vitamin intake, protein and nutrition however the doctor recommends should be first priority. Make sure she's comfortable and keeps in touch with the doctor.
Best of luck.
Best of luck.
Well it's definitely hard for her to maintain her hydration when most of the time she is barely drinking anything at all. She will maybe get thru a quarter bottle of water. That is clearly not enough!!
Texnoble
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AtaLoss- Some people schedule their water and food. Just a few ounces of liquid every 15 minutes. Taking a full 20 minutes to eat. Taking things really slow. That is what has helped me. I don't know how your mother is, but I personally was fearful to consume too much of anything. Scheduling things out helped me.
Thank you. I don't think she's really fearful of eating or drinking. Her whole thing is that everything tastes nasty. Everything tastes like metal according to her. Whatever the heck that means.
Well that makes me highly uncomfortable. She did have diabetes which was the main reason she decided to have the surgery.to get rid of it. Her doctor said her taste buds would be different.Just one resource for information about having a metallic taste in your mouth:
What Causes a Metallic Taste In Your Mouth?
Does your mouth taste like old pennies? Dysgeusia, a change in your sense of taste, can be a side effect of a variety of medical issues. Here’s why you might be experiencing a metallic taste and what to do about it.health.clevelandclinic.org
Go with her when she sees any doctor (take notes) - if you know what is happening and why, you'll feel more in control. If she is still at home, check with her insurance and Social Security to see what kind of help is available - home health care, house cleaning, meal preparation, etc. I recommend joining a support group for Caretakers - you have to take care of yourself so you can take care of your mother. If you have family members, let them know you need help and what will they do to help. I had to make a schedule for my brothers and me. It really helped me feel less overwhelmed and alone. Praying for you both.
Honestly I never know when her doctors appointments are. She has a really bad habit of say stuff at the last minute. My dad has gone with her to every appointment though and then comes back and tells me what was said. She lies a lot and makes up stuff or exaggerates the truth every single time so i honestly feel like going with them would irritate me more. But she is still at work. She's suppose to be a trial run at work to see how she does. I believe next week. I honestly don't think she will last a full shift and I told her not to push herself.