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Donnalynn

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Hello Everyone

I'm really glad I found this forum. It has been very helpful in my journey. I have read things that I was experiencing that others were experiencing the same things.

I'm 9 weeks out from gastric bypass. For the 1st 5 weeks I was consistently losing 4 pounds a week. For the last 4 weeks I've either lost 1 or 2 pounds a week or none at all.
I'm still eating around a 1000 calories a day. I'm also getting around 70 to 90 g of protein a day. I may have had a few things that I'm not supposed to have have but nothing in excess. One thing that I have changed as I started drinking coffee again. The other thing I've noticed is for the 1st several weeks I was sleeping great. It was actually the 1st time in years that I had slept so well. Now I'm back to not sleeping very well at all. Does anybody think that these could be the some of the cause i have stalled??

I am extremely frustrated that I have stalled so quickly. I can't help but to feel that I'm doing something wrong since they always say the scale doesn't lie. It's really hard to talk to your friends about these struggles. When they're not going through the same thing we are
 
Hi Donnalynn, welcome to the group! Stalls unfortunately hit us at one time or another and it can be frustrating for sure. And some stall as early as 3 or 4 weeks and then go on to lose again. There is lots of info on stalls in the forums. Use the search bar in the upper right because there is so much information, it is hard to remember it all.

Are you drinking regular coffee or decaf? Wondering if that is causing sleep problems.

You had been losing weight pretty rapidly and it might just be your body protecting itself from losing too fast. Sometimes you have to look at the total weight loss since surgery to see if you are in the average weight loss category. We often think we should be doing better when actually we are right on target! I'll attach a weight loss chart that was posted a while back.

Good luck and try not to feel like you are doing anything wrong. There will be ups and downs on your journey, just stick with you plan and you will be fine.

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dianeseattle said:
This is the most important thing you wrote in your post. Look how nonspecific it is. What few things? What is excess? It's actually a lie. The weight gain proves it. It's not a stall. You're overeating things you know you shouldn't be.

Our problems with weight begin with denial. Denial begins with denying actual amounts and behaviors.

Yes, you ate things you shouldn't have. Don't do that if you care about your health. Yes, you ate too much. Get out your scale and measuring tools.

Who are you kidding? Not us. Not you.

So if you're going to report a weight gain, remember that you're talking to people who are past masters at cheating and lying about it.

This is a perfect example of why you should keep a journal and write down every crumb.

We're not going to pat you on the head and say, there, there, it's okay. Don't feel bad about it. You had your body cut open and parts taken out so you could get rid of the weight that was killing you.

You need to develop your inner drill sergeant who'll yell at you to straighten up and fly right. Allowing disobedience will lead you right back to dangerous obesity.

Welcome to the group. I hope you'll use us to help you be disciplined. We've all been where you've been. We know that enabling you will help you kill yourself with toxic eating habits.
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Wow I wasn't expecting that kind of response. It wasn't expecting it is OK to not to lose weight. By the way I did Not gain any weight. I thought this is where I could go to get support not be called a liar. was expectin. And accused of overeating when you don't have any idea of my calorie intake a day. I log every single piece of food I eat. My cheats were a candy bar and some potato chips.. I never went over 1300 calories a day. That you cared to ask. It took me a lot to post this because I was feeling so bad about everything. These comments like this are not helpful. And I will probably never post again. Thanks for making me feel Even worse about myself.
 
Hi Donna - welcome to the group!

I’m 2 years post-op gastric bypass. Everyone loses weight differently. Everyone “stalls” at different times. Some people don’t seem to ever stall!

For me personally - I followed the eating/exercise plan my surgical team had in place for me. It had its moments. Like most other things - this is also different for everyone. I had 1 week of liquids, 1 week of puréed, 1 week of soft, then I could eat anything except steak. Red meat can be difficult to process after gastric bypass. I had steak about 10-12 months post-op. It was so tasty but still hard to process and I didn’t eat 3 bites and I was full.

I would suggest talking to your surgical team and/or nutritionist. They can probably look at what your eating, drinking, exercising and suggest ways to get beyond the stall. But, stalls are very common with this surgery.

Best of luck on this amazing journey!
 
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dianeseattle said:
So sorry. I actually went on a tangent after the death of a friend and a sleepless night.

I was virtually writing about myself, in code.

I made a mistake. Please feel free to ignore or dislike me. I'm not myself today.

I didn't even notice it was your first post. Please read some of my other posts to demonstrate that this was not normal.

I'm in really bad shape. "It's not you, it's me " true. I wish I could go back to sleep and never wake up. I don't know how to deal with this unbelievable loss.

I hope I can apologize enough to you so you feel better, regardless of how you feel toward me
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So sorry for your loss Diane.
 
I'm honestly iffy here. On the one hand, I know Diane can be a bit .. blunt. lol But, on the other hand, I wonder what your nutritionist or surgeon response would be to eating candy bars and potato chips by week 9?

No judgement here, you do you. I made cookies yesterday and ate 3 .. but I didn't expect to lose any weight today either. If you want to take a look at what the problem is, sometimes it's going to be what you eat. That's a fact. And processed food calories do not affect your body the same way fresh foods do. Again, no judgement, just something to think about.

Another thought is: What are you drinking in your coffee? Any additional calories can add up. Even skim milk. I had to adjust my food intake to accommodate coffee when I started drinking it again.

Good luck to you. I hope you figure it out.
 
My sister in law had gastric bypass 11-2021. She gained weight during the holidays. She was going to Starbucks DAILY- getting coffee with all the sugary syrups - flavorings - cream and all the things she usually got in there before she had WLS. This is when she gained all the “holiday” weight. She was also eating things at 11-12 days post op I couldn’t even look at.

Donna - you may want to start tracking everything you eat or drink. It can be brutal seeing in your own handwriting exactly what you’re putting into your body. Just some things to consider.
 
dianeseattle said:
So sorry. I actually went on a tangent after the death of a friend and a sleepless night.

I was virtually writing about myself, in code.

I made a mistake. Please feel free to ignore or dislike me. I'm not myself today.

I didn't even notice it was your first post. Please read some of my other posts to demonstrate that this was not normal.

I'm in really bad shape. "It's not you, it's me " true. I wish I could go back to sleep and never wake up. I don't know how to deal with this unbelievable loss.

I hope I can apologize enough to you so you feel better, regardless of how you feel toward me
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Oh Diane I am so sorry for your loss. I know you've been posting about your friend for awhile, but nothing can prepare you for this. You are very much loved. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
 
DonnaLynn, I have a similar surgery time frame to yours - sleeved on 1/21/22. Don't know how old you are, but I am 53, and started out at BMI 35 with associated medical problems. My weight loss has been slower than some other folks, but I figure that is to be expected. My experience has been similar to yours - big losses the first few weeks (but only a 1# loss week 3), and then have slowed down last three weeks (although have to say 1 or 2 pounds lost per week is still nice).
I also found that I was getting bad reactions (from myself) to the scale number. Was only weighing once a week, and kept telling myself that it is "just a number" and just data for me to use - but my emotional reactions - good and bad, to the scale were just disruptive. I would get too excited and feel too good about myself in response to a lower than expected number, and too down in the dumps about a higher than expected number. I was having the urge to weigh all the time, and then planning how would feel about myself related to what number would come up. So my scale is put away for now, and I am just going to try and be proud of myself for tracking and hitting my nutritional goals. This process is going to be a big exercise in persistence and patience, which I guess is not a surprise, but is not very exciting or glamorous most of the time.
Good luck.
 
Hello RuthieD
We are about the same age I'm 56. After I weight on Sunday I had lost 2 more pounds. I may have to put my scale away too, it is so tempting to weigh yourself everyday. It is really hard to not see the scale go down faster. Especially when you're not really eating a whole lot. Or I should say as much as I used to. The last week I have really been watching my portion sizes. I think that's the hardest thing I'm having is realizing I don't need to eat that much. After reading a lot of the post it seemed to be about average losing about 2 pencils a week. You're totally correct in this statement that you have to be patient patience is not one of my strong suits. You should be proud of yourself, You're not giving up. Hanging there take it one day at a time.
 
TraceyT said:
My sister in law had gastric bypass 11-2021. She gained weight during the holidays. She was going to Starbucks DAILY- getting coffee with all the sugary syrups - flavorings - cream and all the things she usually got in there before she had WLS. This is when she gained all the “holiday” weight. She was also eating things at 11-12 days post op I couldn’t even look at.

Donna - you may want to start tracking everything you eat or drink. It can be brutal seeing in your own handwriting exactly what you’re putting into your body. Just some things to consider.
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As a person who has a bad starbucks addiction..if made right, some of the drinks there are no more calories then what people make at home. I try to stick to 1 a week but even when it was at least 50% of the week I didnt gain and I did not cut out food to accommodate coffee.
 
Donnalynn said:
I appreciate all the advice I am receiving. It is a lot of food for thought thanks.

Diane I am sorry for your loss
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When it comes to the stalls, think of it as your body "catching up" to changes. You are making a big changes, and so you will see cycles of your body reacting (aka losing weight), and then a stall (aka resting/catching up), and then another reaction, etc. One thing that really helps me is to note the non-scale victories in the midst of the cycle. Sometimes, while weight may not move as much as you'd like, you can see drop in sizes, or inches in your body... or you realize you are not out of breath when you bend to tie your shoes...
 
Everybody's weightloss journey will be uniquely their own. We all have stalls, but not all at the same time. Our diets are not all the same. The single most important thing is that no matter what has happened up to this point, from this point on you move forward, follow your bariatric team's guidelines to the letter, and you will see results. These results don't always happen overnight, but if you keep following the plan you will see results soon, and they will be worth waiting for!
 
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