Help I gained 40lbs back and I feel ashamed
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3momchaos
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Hello and welcome! When and what type of surgery did you have? How long do you think it’s taken to gain that 40lbs? I know a lot of people are struggling during Covid. I hope you don’t feel too ashamed, because you’ve asked for help and that is nothing to be ashamed of, it’s actually brave of you.
Oh I can tell you exactly when lol I had sleeve surgery on 12 7 2016 and lost 140 lbs in 8 months. I gained 10lbs in aug last year then feb this year gained 10 then maybe 2 months later here I am 20 lbs more adding to 40lbs. I really worked hard at it and really exercise was a part time job then life disappointments covid back to bad eating habits and here I am
I am not too good at this online business lol did u get my response?
3momchaos
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Sure did! What helped you be successful in the beginning? What brought you to the weight loss surgery journey? I know a lot of people here track what they eat to help them stay on course. I am not good at that at all. I’m still preop, so I’m still in the preparation state of mind. I’ve been able to lose 10 pounds since January, not much, but I’m also not actively trying hard because if I lose too much, I’ll disqualify myself from surgery based on my BMI. But I know what I need from this surgery, and while it’ll definitely be a learning experience afterwards, I have goals. One of them is having a plan if I start to gain the weight back, or stop losing altogether too soon. I’m planning on seeing the dietician at my surgeons office, making sure I’ve got my support system keeping me in check, and asking myself if what I am eating is worth the extra calories. This is such a mental undertaking as well as physical, and the better prepared I feel, I hope the more successful I can be. It sounds like you have been very successful up until recent stress. Try to reset to preop thinking about where you want to be.
Your right I do need to visit my mentality pre op. I was so successful my surgeon wanted to hire me and that was a huge motivator. I ran 9 miles on a treadmill some days and exercised literally 3-4 hrs a day. For a long time. I went from a size 22/24 to a small and size 6. I’ll tell you there’s so much to my weight loss journey as I knoW everyone Has so many reasons why the decision was made. I was tired of being fat. My health was not good and I’m a nurse so that amplifies it. I remember saying I was never going to lose 100lbs on my own. I lost 140 lbs. I know how to lose weight and gain weight but maintaining is a struggle
I understand about the weight window for surgery . Any surgery talk or dates at all?
What motivated me once I was on a roll I have an addictive personality so I was addicted to how good I felt and looked and here I am... 40lbs later ... sad
3momchaos
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I have 1 dietician appointment and 1 counselor appointment left plus an EKG with my primary. It’ll all be wrapped up and ready for insurance by September 4th. My insurance changed requirements in March, so I’m a little over a month behind where I thought I would be. I’m ok with that especially since elective surgeries were called off for a while.
3momchaos
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I am really excited, nervous yes, but I feel really fortunate that I have this opportunity after wanting it for many years. I’m 37, I have 3 very active preteens, my knees already have advanced osteoarthritis, and I’m prediabetic. I am going to have the gastric bypass because of a history of GERD. My surgeon is going to take out my gallbladder while he’s in there since I have a history of issues with it. I feel ready, but I don’t want to give myself a false sense of security. I know there will be missteps, set backs, hiccups, but they’ll make the triumphs all so much sweeter! Having this support group, and my personal support system has really made a huge difference in my physical and mental preparation.
missyinacage
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I'm sorry about the gain, I know that has to be so disheartening, especially after so long of a success. The pandemic has taken an emotional toll on everyone. But you have successfully lost a LOT of weight so, you know exactly what you need to do to lose this 40. You just have to get yourself back on track. Start over, as if you had surgery a few weeks ago instead of years. Whatever you did then will work now too. The 100 lbs you are still down are proof that you can do this. Welcome to the group.
Ready or not here you come....it is a bunch of emotions... I’m excited for you.... it was a huge adjustment and a small grieving process for me. I never regret this decision. My pt tells me today we’ll dont you feel better still keeping 100 lbs off.. I said true.... food was used for me for a long time in so many different ways.. I like corresponding back and forth.... you made me feel better... remembering the emotions and YOU are worth it. 37!!!! What a wonderful age... young . I did mine I was 42. This is going to be one of the best things you’ll ever do. Sept will be here soon. And have faith in yourself.... your ready for this and will do just fine.
Thank you thank you thank youit is nice to wake up to that post. I invested so much into my “success” and being here is a disappointment. I am my worst critic and being “fat” comes with such cruelty. I forgot about the 100 lbs to be honest and see only the gain...please tell me about yourself and your journey.. I’m interested
missyinacage
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I am literally lol'ing at "I forgot about the 100 lbs". It's just such a perfect example of the way we all beat ourselves up. Let's see. I'm Missy. I had the gastric bypass on June 22nd, so Monday was 6 weeks. Including the 2 week pre-op diet, I am down 32 lbs. I had a 2 week plateau almost immediately, so I had to give up the scale already. I only weigh at the doctors office, since I'm still seeing them pretty regularly. I was really stressing myself out. I am so grateful for this group. You see that others are having the same struggles you are, people have overcome the same struggles you're having and everyone is really encouraging. It's nice to have a group to share scares and successes with along the way.
I agree. Well congrats on the 32lbs!!! Woo hoo! I remember my plateau was 3 weeks in. Things are interesting now because of the covid. I really need to have a plan. I feel encouragement already and it helps. The scale becomes an obsession... I still weigh daily even though I am disgusted by the number. So what are you doing? Healing of course... are you getting any exercise ? How are you doing with the food adjustment? 6 weeks isn’t long but it is lol
and btw I’m Mary that’s a given with our usernames
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