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I woke up with total regret. SAD TODAY.

Margo - I have always personally felt that the mental part of the journey is more difficult than the physical, especially early on in the process. You are now having to actually deal/feel things instead of shoving them down with food (I speak from personal experience as a food addict), and it really highlights how much we rely on food to be our friend to celebrate with and our comfort when we are down. We have to learn new healthy ways to deal with those things. It is a form of grief/loss. It DOES get better! If it is overwhelming and you don't have a support system that understands food addiction, I would definitely talk to a counselor to help work through.
 
Coping Margo said:
Food was a coping mechanism now. I don't have it. I'm breaking down today. Tears are flowing. Regret is flowing. Did anyone else go through this.
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Margo- There are many ways to cope. Many healthier ways. Drink tea. Make a phone call. Read a book. Take a walk. Start a journal. Write and write and write. The first two pages don't count. My therapist says that we aren't truthful with ourselves so it takes an extra amount of writing to truly get things out of our system. Find an alternative to eating. Go to counseling. Good luck.
 
Coping Margo said:
Food was a coping mechanism now. I don't have it. I'm breaking down today. Tears are flowing. Regret is flowing. Did anyone else go through this.
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Yes! It’s a process that you will overcome just be patient and hang in there its part of the process your brain goes through but I promise in about 3 weeks it will change. Your brain is used to telling you to eat but when it’s tamed as I would say you will do great!
 
I am ten days post op. It hit me yesterday. I haven't cried in years until yesterday. I managed to get cleaned up and dress last night and went to a gathering of friends. I was fine for the rest of the night. Again, today I am in the same boat, so sad and depressed I can't even get the energy to shower. But I must. I have an invite to anther gathering, a dinner party none the less. Not sure I want to go but I need to get out of my head and be around people. Phone calls help for the moment,
 
RoyT said:
I am ten days post op. It hit me yesterday. I haven't cried in years until yesterday. I managed to get cleaned up and dress last night and went to a gathering of friends. I was fine for the rest of the night. Again, today I am in the same boat, so sad and depressed I can't even get the energy to shower. But I must. I have an invite to anther gathering, a dinner party none the less. Not sure I want to go but I need to get out of my head and be around people. Phone calls help for the moment,
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I'm happy to hear that you made yourself go out last night despite these feelings. What's the saying, "Fake it till you make it"? Getting out of your head is huge. Do the friends at the party tonight know about your surgery?
 
Yup watching others eat thi ga you are not able to eat is hard. Puree stage is for the birds but we are making a huge life changing experience. Right now of course we can't see the rewards. Time heals everything. So we do the parts we can and get out and enjoy your friends. I don't have any friends but I have hobbies that I'm trying to get back into. I can't wait to be able to go swimming and walking the treadmill. I knew a few the regulars there.
 
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