Just came home today :)

[Jacki]

I am looking forward to this support group as so much in life has changed (for the better). I have a question...I decided not to really tell anyone because of all the nay sayers that said I could do it on my own. In 2005 I lost 97 pounds with Weight Watchers, but did not keep it off. I was more obsessed with the number on the scale back then. Now I just want to be healthy and around for my 13 yr old b/g twins. So, anyway, now that surgery is over and people know, they are not all that kind about it. Some are, some have globs of advice or horror stories, and some just think I used a cop out method. OH MY WORD this was the hardest thing I have ever done....I do not think it was a short cut cop out by any means. So, how do I keep from letting them get to me emotionally? I am proud of myself, I know who I am, and who I am becoming, and oh well if they do not like it.

 

[Javajoy]

Hi Jacki,

For one thing they need to understand that this is a tool, you still have to do all the work. They need to understand that for some people weight loss surgery is the (only) answer. Try to avoid those people who are so negative as you become healthier. Someone said to me one time "I don't need any negative people around me right now so if you can't be more positive sit someplace else". I did not think at the time that I was being negative in the least and I think she was just having a bad day but I always remembered that statement and use it from time to time. You can't live your life trying to please everyone, you need to please yourself and get healthy for yourself and your family. It isn't a cop out and it certainly isn't the "easy way out". Do you have a support group at your Bariatric Center. They may have other great suggestions. I haven't run into it here, everyone knows someone who had WLS it seems and most people are very supportive and want to compare notes. Some are just curious. Good luck, get healthy, and don't let the naysayers get to you. Surround yourself with the positive and supportive family and friends. Joy

 

[fkrebs]

Hi Jacki, What Java said. The negative nellies are either skinny people who've never had to worry about losing weight or overweight people afraid to take the WLS journey or haven't admitted they need to lose weight. Those are people you don't need in your life. As to how to keep them from getting to you emotionally, try keeping a picture of your twins, and when they are getting to you, pull it out and remind yourself of who's important. I hope that helps. You sound like someone who's going to join the BIG LOSERS Club.

Frank