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Life after surgery

GCooper

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It has been a long time since I posted. It's been 14 months since my gastric bypass. I reached my goal weight in 13 months from surgery date. I did very very well with it and am pleased with my results. I have to say the mental part of the surgery was the hardest for me. Along withy new physical appearance I also have a new mental state. Some good some bad. I lost my job in April and was devastated. I'm still not over it. I felt that everything i had worked so hard for was over. I have not gained my self esteem back after that. I should be happy as ever because I look and feel fantastic except my self esteem was crushed from being fired from my job. I'm in continual counciling and try to stay focused on my ongoing quest to maintain my weight. It has been very hard mentally but I will get through it. I'm alive and well and am thankfull everyday for that. After all I've been through I still wouldn't change it for anything. I truly encourage people to go for it. Life will still have it's ups and downs. I'm living proof.
 
I hope thinks have improved for you. Thanks for posting. Yes, we all have ups and downs. Last year was horrible for me, starting with moving last December (because my roommate/son decided to move out) to losing my car. I can say that I am in an upswing and that is what convinced me to have the surgery. I appreciate hearing from someone who is over a year post surgery and seeing that even when life hit you, you were just like a weeble (Weebles wobble but they don't fall down).
 
Hi GCooper. You must be so very proud of how far you've come and what you've accomplished. I'm sort of sorry for the loss of your job, you must have really loved it because you sound like you are mourning it like the loss of a loved one. I don't know why you were fired but that is past. Decide to quit mourning the loss of your job and move on. You have already proven that you can do it, your weight loss and maintenance weight is testimony to that. Get mad get happy get even whatever it takes to get you out of this funk you need to do it and do it now. Get angry with me! Prove to me and that >person who fired you that you are better than that and can succeed and are a valuable employee. Remember this continued pain over the loss of your job is because you've chosen to allow that pain to hurt you. You get to decide how you feel about something no one else.
If you don't have a job get one, any job. If you can't find a job create one. If you don't know how to create a job find out.
All I can say is stop mourning start moving.
I say all this with all the love and goodwill I can. I would say this to a friend, my child, myself. You can do it.
 
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