My surgery is scheduled for November 11th. I am doing this for myself, I want to feel better, look better and just feel better emotionally as well as physically. My immediate family has all passed but my cousin helps me when I need it. I also offer help when she needs it. Lately it seems I have been doing all the giving. When I talked about bariatric surgery she did everything in her power to talk me out of it. That included enlisting her husband to help her talk to me. I am in constant pain and am to the point of no return. In July my cousin lost almost all of the vision in her left eye. I told her this is not normal and to call her optometrist. She wouldn't do this, might interfere with vacation and so on. She waited until the last week in September to go to the optometrist. She was sent to the retinal specialist and found out yesterday she needs surgery, scheduled for November 6th. The doctor told her the worst part of the whole thing would be the IV and having to stay with her head in one position for a week. She can't exert herself for a month, no housecleaning or anything like that. She has done nothing but complain. My eyesight won't be as good, I can't bowl, can't wash my hair for a week and so on. It's better than being BLIND! Am I a bad person for not wanting to postpone surgery? I started this journey the beginning of August. The insurance has approved surgery,my preop appointment is set and I am ready for this. Because she waited I now have to find someone to take me the day of surgery and come and get me when discharged. She has 4 children and a husband to help. Her kids will help if I need it but I hate to ask because they don't have time now. (There will be even less time time when they have to help their mom.) I am going to set things up so I can survive by myself. The neighbor lady will help when she can ( I don't expect her to but it will be appreciated) and I will be fine. Am I being selfish and petty. My cousin went with me to the seminar and nutritionist until school started. She didn't t go in with me at the nutritionist. She hasn't been that supportive but I have plenty of friends that are. Should I postpone or not? Any thoughts?