Cameron Wolfe
New Member
This is my first post on here so I don't know if this is the right thread but here it goes.
I am a male and i am going to be having the surgery in a few weeks. My wife is super supportive of this and is helping me along the way. She, like me, is a bigger woman we have both came to this agreement that we will never take offence to when we tell each other I think we have had enough eating tonight and wont get offended when we say about one another that we could stand to lose a few lbs or that we are big. We have always had each others backs and never anything but love and wanting the best for us both.
I worried about this when I first started talking about the surgery, but talked to friends and family and they kind of said to not worry about it. But recently it came up and i don't know if this is something that should concern me or anything. She has started to ask me things like " will I find her attractive after i lose the weight" "Will I still want to have sex with her" just insecurities, which i totally get. This is not just a change for me but also a change for her. I have offered up making her an appointment with my doctor, A side note: it is great to work for the doctor that is doing your surgery. And also postponing my surgery so we can do this together. She declined stating she thinks she can do this on her own.
I know plenty of family members who have done the surgery, but they are all women. I am willing to hear from anyone on this matter, but if i can find someone who has been through this scenario that would be great. I do want to hear from the other side as well how did your male spouse take it when you lost the weight. How is the jealousy handled? How does the relationship fair? I know their might be therapy, how was that for you if you went through it?
Ultimately i am doing this surgery not so much for myself but rather for my wife and daughter so I'm around for as long as they need me, I don't want her to feel like i am doing this for negative reasons.
Thank you so much even if you just read this.
I am a male and i am going to be having the surgery in a few weeks. My wife is super supportive of this and is helping me along the way. She, like me, is a bigger woman we have both came to this agreement that we will never take offence to when we tell each other I think we have had enough eating tonight and wont get offended when we say about one another that we could stand to lose a few lbs or that we are big. We have always had each others backs and never anything but love and wanting the best for us both.
I worried about this when I first started talking about the surgery, but talked to friends and family and they kind of said to not worry about it. But recently it came up and i don't know if this is something that should concern me or anything. She has started to ask me things like " will I find her attractive after i lose the weight" "Will I still want to have sex with her" just insecurities, which i totally get. This is not just a change for me but also a change for her. I have offered up making her an appointment with my doctor, A side note: it is great to work for the doctor that is doing your surgery. And also postponing my surgery so we can do this together. She declined stating she thinks she can do this on her own.
I know plenty of family members who have done the surgery, but they are all women. I am willing to hear from anyone on this matter, but if i can find someone who has been through this scenario that would be great. I do want to hear from the other side as well how did your male spouse take it when you lost the weight. How is the jealousy handled? How does the relationship fair? I know their might be therapy, how was that for you if you went through it?
Ultimately i am doing this surgery not so much for myself but rather for my wife and daughter so I'm around for as long as they need me, I don't want her to feel like i am doing this for negative reasons.
Thank you so much even if you just read this.
