Scared.....
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Brenda2010
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I was a little nervous but mostly excited. What are your fears? I'm sure someone has felt all of them here.
Brenda2010
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I understand the fear of the worst but I truly believe that won't happen. This surgery is performed all the time, it's somewhat routine these days. I'm sure you're in good hands, your surgeon & primary doctor wouldn't allow you to pursue surgery if you weren't healthy enough to have it. You will have a little pain afterward but even that shouldn't be too bad. If you poke around the site, you'll find that many of us had some nervousness and then afterword realized it was nothing to worry about. You'll be back home in no time.
Brenda2010
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And I'm sorry that you have people in your life bringing up gloomy scenarios. You need to find a way to shut out their voices. Remember that they are not experts, don't give them that power over your emotions. And for some reason, they want to keep you in a negative state of mind. That tells me that although they may love you, they are not really on your side with this fight against obesity. You need to distance yourself from them emotionally, at least for a while.
Brenda2010
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Any time, that's what this group is all about.
Cyxelsid
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This is really too bad, but not uncommon. People can have many reasons for sabotaging the plans of others, both consciously and unconsciously. Many of them fear that our success will highlight their failure. Many are afraid that if we get healthy, we won't need them anymore. There are many other reasons too.
But the key is that you realize this is your story, not theirs. I have had to tell a lot of people (family, friends, and coworkers), that while I appreciate their concern, I made a choice and a decision for myself. I took a lot of time, did a lot of research, and chose great doctors. If they want to support my decision, fantastic. Otherwise, I asked them to keep their comments and advice to themselves.
That is a hard thing to say, and hard for them to hear. It has also strained a couple of relationships. But I am certain I am on the right path.
One thing that I have heard twice in the last couple of weeks when i talked about my surgery... "Oh, you couldn't do it on your own?" The first time, I let it go and walked away. The second time I couldn't.
I replied, "That is the most demeaning, demoralizing, and sabotaging thing you could have said to me. Would you say that to a cancer patient? Or an alcoholic? I am doing this 'on my own'. Neither my doctor, or you, are going to help me live through this change." That ended the conversation very quickly.