Slipping & Need Help!!

[rustir72]

Hello! I had gastric bypass 8/7/17. Fortunately I didn't have any complications.Day of surgery I was 251, I had to lose 40 lbs prior to surgery due to insurance requirements. The first year went rather well. And slowly I found myself doing things I swore I wouldn't do if I had the surgery....I wouldn't drink soda (I could drink a 12 pack without a problem before surgery), I wouldn't eat junk food, I'd be dedicated to staying as healthy as possible. My lowest weight attained after surgery was 155. And here I sit today at 178, doing the opposite of what I promised myself I wouldn't do. And now I'm feeling so disappointed in myself!! Because I feel I've fallen so far off the wagon & can't seem to get back on the right track. I do amazingly fantastic....until I get around cake, ice cream, candy, soda, off limit foods....then mysteriously they end up in my mouth I tell myself I can resist and I can do this right today but by mid afternoon I find myself telling myself "tomorrow I'll do better". Because of my work schedule and distance I'm unable to attend the support group offered by the hospital where I had my surgery done. My family is supportive but they can't be responsible for what I put in my mouth or getting me to the gym. I'm getting so angry and disappointed in myself because it's not that I don't know what I need to do....it's a matter of doing it. Does or has anyone gone through this??? Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated!!!

 

[Texnoble]

Hello! I had gastric bypass 8/7/17. Fortunately I didn't have any complications.Day of surgery I was 251, I had to lose 40 lbs prior to surgery due to insurance requirements. The first year went rather well. And slowly I found myself doing things I swore I wouldn't do if I had the surgery....I wouldn't drink soda (I could drink a 12 pack without a problem before surgery), I wouldn't eat junk food, I'd be dedicated to staying as healthy as possible. My lowest weight attained after surgery was 155. And here I sit today at 178, doing the opposite of what I promised myself I wouldn't do. And now I'm feeling so disappointed in myself!! Because I feel I've fallen so far off the wagon & can't seem to get back on the right track. I do amazingly fantastic....until I get around cake, ice cream, candy, soda, off limit foods....then mysteriously they end up in my mouth I tell myself I can resist and I can do this right today but by mid afternoon I find myself telling myself "tomorrow I'll do better". Because of my work schedule and distance I'm unable to attend the support group offered by the hospital where I had my surgery done. My family is supportive but they can't be responsible for what I put in my mouth or getting me to the gym. I'm getting so angry and disappointed in myself because it's not that I don't know what I need to do....it's a matter of doing it. Does or has anyone gone through this??? Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated!!!

You recognize there is a problem. That is an amazing first step. You have defined the culprit, another plus! Where is the food coming from? Are you buying it? Is it well-meaning relatives or co-workers? Study how this has entered back into your life. Have you let up on water and protein and exercize? You have the tools. Forgive yourself and get back on the wagon.

 

[Brenda2010]

Hello! I had gastric bypass 8/7/17. Fortunately I didn't have any complications.Day of surgery I was 251, I had to lose 40 lbs prior to surgery due to insurance requirements. The first year went rather well. And slowly I found myself doing things I swore I wouldn't do if I had the surgery....I wouldn't drink soda (I could drink a 12 pack without a problem before surgery), I wouldn't eat junk food, I'd be dedicated to staying as healthy as possible. My lowest weight attained after surgery was 155. And here I sit today at 178, doing the opposite of what I promised myself I wouldn't do. And now I'm feeling so disappointed in myself!! Because I feel I've fallen so far off the wagon & can't seem to get back on the right track. I do amazingly fantastic....until I get around cake, ice cream, candy, soda, off limit foods....then mysteriously they end up in my mouth I tell myself I can resist and I can do this right today but by mid afternoon I find myself telling myself "tomorrow I'll do better". Because of my work schedule and distance I'm unable to attend the support group offered by the hospital where I had my surgery done. My family is supportive but they can't be responsible for what I put in my mouth or getting me to the gym. I'm getting so angry and disappointed in myself because it's not that I don't know what I need to do....it's a matter of doing it. Does or has anyone gone through this??? Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated!!!

Hi rustir72,

I agree with both Diane and Tex. Before anything, you need to forgive yourself, you've kept so much weight off, 113 lbs? Congratulations!!! I'd be so grateful for that win.

You're clearly under the control of a sugar addiction and my best suggestion would be to find a therapist who specializes in addiction and/or eating disorders. I've struggled with addiction to both alcohol and food and the term "willpower" is a joke for me. I need one on one help to keep my addictions in check. Perhaps your surgeon's staff could suggest someone in your area? You can control it, you just need some tools. It's all in our heads!!!