Good evening everyone. I have been searching for a forum and was happy to find this one. A little about myself and my worries. I have struggled with my weight all my life and now have to loose at least 130 lbs. I have researched the different types of surgeries and have an appointment with a surgeon next week. Even though I will not be covered by my insurance, I feel that I am worth the $16K it is going to cost me. I am 53 years old and would finally like to feel half decent about myself. I have developed diabetes, high blood pressure and have sleep apnea. I would like to be able to bend over to tie my shoes without feeling winded! I would like to be able to walk the dogs without having a sore back. Here are a few issues I am worried about: I know that there is a HUGE emotional tie with overeating. How have you gotten over it? I have no doubt that I can do it physically, but how about the emotional part? What do you do when you go to someone's house for a diner party? What do you do if friends ask you out for supper? I know it might sound silly, but so much of my social life evolves around food. I just wanted to know how you handle it. Thanks you so much for your input. I love reading all your postings.
Taking the leap of faith
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eladams2015
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Welcome - you've come to the right place!
missdarmitage
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The biggest tip I can give you as far as eating out is to try to look at the menus online before you go out to eat. That sounds crazy, but it really helps. Make the decision on what you will/won't eat before you get to the restaurant and let the smells/sights tempt you into something you shouldn't have. I make my decision about 24 hours in advance and can't help but be excited about the upcoming meal. I don't think twice about my decision once I am there because I know I made it with my mind, not my stomach.
There is an adjustment period when you start going out with people to eat after surgery. One of the pro's is that whatever you order, you will have leftovers that can last 3-4 meals. But it can get awkward. Last week I went to a gala where I was sitting with six people I had never met before that event. They served a very healthy meal: salad w/dressing on the side, grilled chicken, asparagus, cooked carrots, mashed potatoes, and cheesecake with fruit for dessert. I was able to eat a few bites of everything in the first two courses. One of the ladies at my table asked if I was going to enjoy the cheesecake, in which I replied yes. She then made the comment "Well you should eat your dinner first." My sister was there with me and just laughed and replied that I had. I had to tell her that I just exercised amazing portion control
. I then enjoyed the dessert by eating the raspberries and blackberries and two small bites of the cake. It was a weird feeling when someone called me out on the amount I was eating, but I was proud of the fact that the majority of the meal was still on my plate. I ate what my body needed and not a bit more. Like I said, you will have to adjust to it, but it will work out in the end!