Trying to find my balance

[Kim M]

I have had a rough few weeks. Numerous medical emergencies with my Dad who is 93. My sister-in-law of 43 years died last Wed after a couragous battle with cancer. During this period my schedule disappeared. I work full time and had to take off numerous days of work, which my employer was not happy about. My emotions are raw and if not for the surgery would have turned to food. When I was able, I took something simple like a yogurt wth me. Sometimes there was just no time to prepare and I went without food and vitamins. I have to say I did not think about eating anything that was not on my food plan. Today I am in hiding. I took my bereavement day and am trying to regroup. I will retrun to work on Tues and continue to deal with life again as all of us have to. Just wanted to connect to some people who get it. Sometimes it is very hard to take care of yourself. I am doing the best I can.

 

[Karenina]

I feel for you Kim. Life is not always easy. When my husband died I couldn't make myself do any meal planning or even care if I ate right. After a while my stomach hurt so much I had to start putting vegetables and fruits back into my diet or I think I would have ended up with a bowel obstruction.
Please don't let yourself get sick over this. And work? Give them the one finger salute (at least mentally).

 

[TwoMas]

Hi Kim, I am very sorry for your loss, I lost my wife to cancer a little over ten years ago after her battle with it. We must be strong but remember to take time to grieve, it is unfortunate your supervisor is not more understanding. Hang in there and do the best you can, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Tom

 

[Pat99]

Kim-So very sorry for the loss of your sister-in-law and also the problems facing your elderly father. When these sorts of things happen all at once it certainly makes it more difficult to bear. You sound like a strong woman who will be able to pull through this in time. As if this isn't enough you have an employer who doesn't seem to care about much. What makes employers take this road is a mystery to me. I once told a former employer if they had such a difficult time living without me for the 3 days it took me to recoup from a nasty flu then we need to talk about what they were paying me *LOL* Anyway, do what you need to do and above all put your needs first when you need to, afterall you owe this to yourself