I think this forum is very special because we all have a range of experiences and personalities and it is nice to hear authentic conversation about these in a safe space. I realize the support from some of my friends who had WLS before me may be rare but i have a complicated relationship with my parents and their fight with obesity due to eating habits which I was raised on. I used to worry about my mom eating so few calories, without WLS, but she snacked and didn't admit it so still wasn't losing weight, and wondered why, but you couldn't tell her because she wouldn't listen, she didn't want the truth. I am inspiring her now to really lose weight (she likes racing me). My Dad has eating disorders and a lot of pride but inteligent enough to know what he is doing, and we can't figure out why he doesn't try harder to be healthy. It is a healthy loving relationship, but complicated because we all really want the others to be healthy and succeed, and love one another, but want to do it our own ways without being told by the others. I think it is just too emotional. We definitely support one anothers successes, we just don't want anyone giving their two cents on our chosen path.