kayshaee
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Has anyone experienced lack of staff support from your surgery team in this process?
I feel alone :'( like i am in over my head.
and I am second guessing the surgery office I chose.
but my surgery is in a week the 17th.
I thought I would have all my questions answered today.
I feel more confused.
and feel like quitting.
that this is not going to change anything
that I am not going to get the results I have seen others have.
I am breaking down..
I am doubting myself.
Just going to share what happened today and if anyone can give advice or
simply acknowledge me and that this happens to more people and not just me
I had my pre op appointment today, I went in with a list of questions.
I left super frustrated and confused
this process has been really confusing for me. in the beginning I remember being so confused and did what they suggested
which was 12 appointments with a pa. doctor.
she has been the most supportive. However, we didn't talk much about the surgery itself because she was not
a bariatric doctor.
I would call the surgeon nurse line and they would sound so irritated that I was asking questions and would refer me to my paperwork
but that's what I was calling about that I was CONFUSED it was not making sense to me.
I have had so much anxiety leading up to this appointment and told myself that I would have clarity after this appointment.
I feel like i have more questions now rather than before.
I only met with my surgeon once in a year and that was at the beginning.
The nursing staff on his team have not been helpful at all, if anything they made it worse.
I have a lot more fear, and I dont feel supported by this staff and my surgery date is in a WEEK.
so its like????
I am so close but I'm scared more of the staff not supporting me.
They make it seem like I'm not a person with feelings.
I'm just going to share a little my experience today because I feel mind-fucked honestly.
I have had this thought in my mind that I had a choice for sleeve or bypass. that's what my surgeon said my first appointment. he also asked how much i wanted to lose- and I said i would be happy to be down ehhh like 180. and he was like ok well what is your DREAM weight.
and i said it seems to far for me to even dream about.
and he said just shoot me your number.
i said 150.
he said "oh EASY"
with the bypass I could get there.
so gives me a high dose of hope.
TODAY--
My appointment was at 3:30pm- arrive by 3:15
I live a hour away right.
They call me at 1.
" Can you come in 2:30-2:45, it snowed... blah blah.. we want to go home early.
the appointment wont take long."
me-
"well we live a hour away, and we would have to leave soon soon to make it but we will try.
she said okay well call if you cant"
So we are on the road at 2:10
looked up the address in my portal and saw the appointment was changed to 230 arrive by 215.
I call and im like "hey your office asked me to come in early instead of 3:30 im calling to let you know we can be there at 2:45-50"
she said " oh nooo worries that will be only 5 mintues late and we could work with it.
me- "No I am not late- im early."
She said "oh no worries its fine that you get here then"
like WHAT,
I get there dont even sit down- rushed to the room
the ma or whatever comes in with us and right off the bat pulls out a paper and reads over it in like 1 minute.
I said woah woah, what are you saying i dont know what that means.
she keeps talking
I said can I look at this paper she shows it to me i look at it for 5 seconds and she takes it
im like ?????
she said im giving this to the surgeon.
and walks out fast.
didnt even get this girls name
You guys I am so frusturated
The surgeon comes in
he asks me how i am ( thats a first since ive been there)
He then proceeds to talk..
and I say "I do have a lot of questions and I brought them in here I have a list of questions"
He says
"oh okay let me tell you my shpeal.. first"
he talks for 30 minutes and would not let me say anything during his speech.
and it is word.for.word. what he said in the first appointment.
I finally was able to squeeze in the question of which surgery he suggests i get
and hes like oh of course the sleeve that seems healthier for you because you smoked before
and i said well no I vape
-no answer
he already knew this in the beginning, and he first suggested the bypass.
So all of this time (months over this year) I spent contemplating which surgery to get.
when, all this time I did not have a choice.
Like why didnt he tell me this right off the fucking bat.
I then ask him, okay with the sleeve do you think i could hit my goal weight- 150.
he said no. straight up no.
and that I could maybe maybe get to 200.
im 260.
like what
he said i could get to 150 in our first appointment.
-bullshit- gave me all this hope just to tell me that im going to go through this invasive surgery that i have spent a year of my life planning to "maybe lose 60 pounds"
I mean its better then nothing.. but damn. I hear everyone lose more. I had a friend that was 340
down to 170 with the sleeve in 8 months.
he said well shes a a+ student.
I am stressed beyond words yall.
I am so close to my surgery date but don't feel supporhted by the staff.
the surgeon is experienced and feels safe and calm. which I liked.
but it just is throwing me off
how rushed these appointments have been and I feel like I don't matter and I am just 1 of thousands of people that get this
it seems like its just money to them
but this is my life.
:'(
I also want to drink.. so bad. because of this stress.
but haven't drank in 2 months
I don't even know what to do next-
supposobly I have a phone consult?
dont know when
and that I need to get labs
They didn't give me any paperwork or location or remind me of an appointment.
when I asked the reception they said they dont know and they were trying to leave.
then I used the restroom started walking out
and they were talking shit about me..
saying something like if only she came sooner..
like?
I was here early. a thank you would be the only thing you need to say-
you would still be here if I got here at 330. probably later???!!!
childish.
Has anyone experienced lack of staff support in this process?
I feel alone :'( like i am in over my head.
I'm so scared..
Thanks for listening to my vent session.
I feel alone :'( like i am in over my head.
and I am second guessing the surgery office I chose.
but my surgery is in a week the 17th.
I thought I would have all my questions answered today.
I feel more confused.
and feel like quitting.
that this is not going to change anything
that I am not going to get the results I have seen others have.
I am breaking down..
I am doubting myself.
Just going to share what happened today and if anyone can give advice or
simply acknowledge me and that this happens to more people and not just me
I had my pre op appointment today, I went in with a list of questions.
I left super frustrated and confused
this process has been really confusing for me. in the beginning I remember being so confused and did what they suggested
which was 12 appointments with a pa. doctor.
she has been the most supportive. However, we didn't talk much about the surgery itself because she was not
a bariatric doctor.
I would call the surgeon nurse line and they would sound so irritated that I was asking questions and would refer me to my paperwork
but that's what I was calling about that I was CONFUSED it was not making sense to me.
I have had so much anxiety leading up to this appointment and told myself that I would have clarity after this appointment.
I feel like i have more questions now rather than before.
I only met with my surgeon once in a year and that was at the beginning.
The nursing staff on his team have not been helpful at all, if anything they made it worse.
I have a lot more fear, and I dont feel supported by this staff and my surgery date is in a WEEK.
so its like????
I am so close but I'm scared more of the staff not supporting me.
They make it seem like I'm not a person with feelings.
I'm just going to share a little my experience today because I feel mind-fucked honestly.
I have had this thought in my mind that I had a choice for sleeve or bypass. that's what my surgeon said my first appointment. he also asked how much i wanted to lose- and I said i would be happy to be down ehhh like 180. and he was like ok well what is your DREAM weight.
and i said it seems to far for me to even dream about.
and he said just shoot me your number.
i said 150.
he said "oh EASY"
with the bypass I could get there.
so gives me a high dose of hope.
TODAY--
My appointment was at 3:30pm- arrive by 3:15
I live a hour away right.
They call me at 1.
" Can you come in 2:30-2:45, it snowed... blah blah.. we want to go home early.
the appointment wont take long."
me-
"well we live a hour away, and we would have to leave soon soon to make it but we will try.
she said okay well call if you cant"
So we are on the road at 2:10
looked up the address in my portal and saw the appointment was changed to 230 arrive by 215.
I call and im like "hey your office asked me to come in early instead of 3:30 im calling to let you know we can be there at 2:45-50"
she said " oh nooo worries that will be only 5 mintues late and we could work with it.
me- "No I am not late- im early."
She said "oh no worries its fine that you get here then"
like WHAT,
I get there dont even sit down- rushed to the room
the ma or whatever comes in with us and right off the bat pulls out a paper and reads over it in like 1 minute.
I said woah woah, what are you saying i dont know what that means.
she keeps talking
I said can I look at this paper she shows it to me i look at it for 5 seconds and she takes it
im like ?????
she said im giving this to the surgeon.
and walks out fast.
didnt even get this girls name
You guys I am so frusturated
The surgeon comes in
he asks me how i am ( thats a first since ive been there)
He then proceeds to talk..
and I say "I do have a lot of questions and I brought them in here I have a list of questions"
He says
"oh okay let me tell you my shpeal.. first"
he talks for 30 minutes and would not let me say anything during his speech.
and it is word.for.word. what he said in the first appointment.
I finally was able to squeeze in the question of which surgery he suggests i get
and hes like oh of course the sleeve that seems healthier for you because you smoked before
and i said well no I vape
-no answer
he already knew this in the beginning, and he first suggested the bypass.
So all of this time (months over this year) I spent contemplating which surgery to get.
when, all this time I did not have a choice.
Like why didnt he tell me this right off the fucking bat.
I then ask him, okay with the sleeve do you think i could hit my goal weight- 150.
he said no. straight up no.
and that I could maybe maybe get to 200.
im 260.
like what
he said i could get to 150 in our first appointment.
-bullshit- gave me all this hope just to tell me that im going to go through this invasive surgery that i have spent a year of my life planning to "maybe lose 60 pounds"
I mean its better then nothing.. but damn. I hear everyone lose more. I had a friend that was 340
down to 170 with the sleeve in 8 months.
he said well shes a a+ student.
I am stressed beyond words yall.
I am so close to my surgery date but don't feel supporhted by the staff.
the surgeon is experienced and feels safe and calm. which I liked.
but it just is throwing me off
how rushed these appointments have been and I feel like I don't matter and I am just 1 of thousands of people that get this
it seems like its just money to them
but this is my life.
:'(
I also want to drink..
so bad. because of this stress.but haven't drank in 2 months
I don't even know what to do next-
supposobly I have a phone consult?
dont know when
and that I need to get labs
They didn't give me any paperwork or location or remind me of an appointment.
when I asked the reception they said they dont know and they were trying to leave.
then I used the restroom started walking out
and they were talking shit about me..
saying something like if only she came sooner..
like?
I was here early. a thank you would be the only thing you need to say-
you would still be here if I got here at 330. probably later???!!!
childish.
Has anyone experienced lack of staff support in this process?
I feel alone :'( like i am in over my head.
I'm so scared..
Thanks for listening to my vent session.
