Did any one have second thoughts
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AnnieLuv
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I have had many second thoughts! Mine is 5 weeks away and my mom keeps saying, "are you sure you want to have this done?"
I am because I believe my life will be much easier and better quality when I get a big chunk of the weight off and in 49 years I haven't been able to get there on my own. Think of how you will feel next year at this time!
I am because I believe my life will be much easier and better quality when I get a big chunk of the weight off and in 49 years I haven't been able to get there on my own. Think of how you will feel next year at this time!
Weezy'sjourney
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Hi Toya, I haven't been scheduled yet, waiting for insurance approval, but I think it's normal to have second thoughts. I have. I think, why can't I lose weight on my own? But, then i realize that i haven't been successful on every diet out there, some of us need help. I hope you opt for the tool that will help you take back your life, that's how I look at it. Good luck! Keep us posted, Weezy
FrankMac
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Hi Toya, I didn't have any worries preop. I must admit that I work in the operating room where my surgeon does these surgeries and have given anesthesia to many patients having this done. So I had thought about this decision for many years and I weighed the pros and cons carefully. But after the surgery for the first few days I did have some buyers remorse. I thought to myself " I don't think that I can live like this." But after the first few days I realized that I couldn't go on living like I was before the surgery; always having to buy clothes that fit whether I liked them or not, having anxiety every time I ate poorly or to much, being a slave to food all of the time, Ect. Now ( 42 days post op) I feel great and wish that I had done this years ago. I sleep better and feel better all of the time. I buy clothes that I like because I can fit into most any thing. My hips and knees don't hurt as much. I haven't taken a tylenol in weeks!! I used to take ibuprofen 3-4 times a week. ( Important note: DO NOT take ibuprofen ever after your surgery.) Now just some turmeric and magnesium keeps me pain free.
I hope that you found this helpful.
FrankMac
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After surgery you will have sutures and staples in your stomach. Ibuprofen can irritate the stomach lining and interfere with healing. As can any drug in the NSAID class, like excedrin, aspirin, pamprin. Tylenol however is not an nsaid. Just be careful about how much Tylenol u take because your liver will be working very hard during the rapid weight loss so u don’t want to over work it with a ton of Tylenol. Just follow your surgeons instructions with regards to post op pain control. You’ll probably get most of this info at your preop visit.
Brenda2010
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Thank Frank, much to my dismay, I was told no ibuprofen... ever.
I was actually hoping for a contradictory second opinion. I get aura migraines and Advil is the only thing that has ever helped. Have had one since surgery and Tylenol didn't help at all. Sounds like it's a sacrifice I'll have to live with. Still worth it.
Brenda2010
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ttyson
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It’s a major lifestyle change. It’s also permanent. I think second thoughts are normal. I really think you have to have a firm grasp on why you are doing it. YOLO and I want to live as long as I can and feel good! The first week was tough. I have had no regrets once I made it through 3/4 weeks. Good luck with your decision.
AnnieLuv
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I was also told no nsaids due to possible bleeding at the site where they attach the intestine to the stomach (this is for ruiny).
I get migraines too and have psoriatic arthritis so pain management is also an issue for me. After talking with my various drs.....they say it's better to have the surgery and then try different pain solutions. (accupuncture, non nsaids, etc...)
I get migraines too and have psoriatic arthritis so pain management is also an issue for me. After talking with my various drs.....they say it's better to have the surgery and then try different pain solutions. (accupuncture, non nsaids, etc...)
Im so happy someone asked this question. I went to my first nutrition apt and it made me afraid. Can I do this? 20 oz 3 times a day, regulated routine, every day. .. Like all obese people Ive tried every diet, and for three years tried to keep to 1500 cals a day, with no substantial weight loss. I look at, if I dont I will die early. And I wont like whats left of my life. I guess Im scared. I have changed my lifestyle but its not working and I need a jumpstart.
how are doing now Thyson? Happy you are doing good. Can you keep me updated, I really want to know. Im a t the stage that Im questioning my commitment and ability to stick with a regimented lifestyle.
Thats good advice, Im going to meditate tomorrow. I realize part of my issue is my doctor has taken me off my anxiety meditation. Easy to forget. And every issue Im having , right now, is adding to it. I feel overwhelmed with having to make decisions. Its been a rough two weeks, our a/c stopped working, our fridge stopped, we had to get another fridge. Then massive dr apts. Btw I am in Eastern Washington. In another week weather is suppose to average around 85°. No parts till 29th. The nutrition apt kind of pushed me over the edge. I super appreciate your reply. 2 weeks ago I was rearless about this.
I lived in Seattle area in the 80s. The traffic, currentl y, is heavy. I don't like the heat either. You have to have auto and house A\C. I didn't have it while growing up either. I finally convinced my mother when she struggled with cancer treatment. Guess it was the staying home in the blaring sun, all day heat, that finally resonated. It has been in the 90s, and it's only May! I don't remember it being that hot in May.
ttyson
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7 weeks since surgery. I have lost 24 pounds. I have lost 50 total since August 2018. I went shopping yesterday. I used to buy 3X shirts, I was able to buy 1X and it felt great! It’s hard to stay on plan when you are out running around town. I have a cute lunchbox I load with drinks and 4oz of protein shake or cottage cheese or cheese sticks. It is easier to stay on task with food when you are seeing results. So before surgery it took me 8 months to lose 26 pounds on my own and 7 weeks to lose 24 after surgery. Like I said, I had 2nd thoughts before, but no regrets after.
FrankMac
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I must admit that I had similar worries, but after the surgery I don't have the cravings that I used to have. Most of the foods that I used to eat don't even tempt me anymore. I have lost my tolerance of fatty foods. I gave up alcohol long before the surgery but would take a sip of my wife's wine here and there. Now even a sip of wine makes me queasy. The great thing about this surgery is that it makes it easy to not over eat and I have to eat slowly or suffer the discomfort. Take advantage of the how easy it is to eat proper. One thing that I have started to do is to not eat anything bite size. In other words make sure that most of your food needs to be cut. I hold the fork with my non-dominant hand cut with dominant hand. Then switch my fork to my dominant hand then take the bite. This slows down my eating.
Remember that this surgery is a tool. A hammer won't drive a nail all by itself; You have to swing the hammer for it to make it work. With this tool the job is so much easier. Come up with strategies that fit your lifestyle and you can do it.
Good luck to you!
Thank you for your uplifting support. Can I ask which surgery you had? Also, have you had problems with energy after giving up caffeine? I get a bad fibro brain fog in the afternoons, realizing why I had Pepsi - it was to push my energy up.
I have just started all of the pre test clearance, and I’m also ready having second thoughts. It just seem like it so much going on at one time. With changes on the job and trying to get all of test scheduled around work. Anxiety high. I set in my office last week and just cried.
I be been dealing with a lot of anxiety a nd consequently fibromyalgia pain. I've gotten some great support on here. One thing I try to keep in my sight, if I don't have this zurgery , what does my future look like? Will I live long, will I be happy, Do I want to live the rest of my life uncomfortable Nd socially invisible? How am I feeling right now? I want to be happy. Whether I'm beautifully thin or not, I could care less but to be able to get around easier, move bette, have lots more energy, and feel healthier - yes, that is what I want. I dont enjoy thinking of food. I would rather be imensed in creating a painting, being outside training my new service puppy or hanging with my fantastic husband doing something. Without this surgery I will lose this for my future. Write out a pro and con sheet for you. This is your decision and your life. No one gets to tell you any differently. So far, I've found a lot of people who have gone thru these feelings of do I really want to do this? I think you should be asking yourself this as any surgery is a risk. But eating a lot of food is also a risk, what's the difference?
you reminded me of the surgeries passing the food hormonal indicators, so do you have to eat when not hungry? Is it no matter what day your three meals daily? I'vs only had one apt with nutritional dude.
i find all the doctor appointment s overwhelming. And Im on disability! I realize they are necessary, but too many at one time. You might mention it and request a lower amount and you need to slow down or you can try doubling them up so you kill two birds with one stone. Hang in there, you got this! Imagine how much more energy you will have, think of the benefits youll gain.