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Feel like a failure

suzannethemom said:
My exercise physiologist is a runner. She practically runs every day. She’s done a few marathons as well. She had sleeve surgery two years ago and she likes to brag about how active she is and how she walked the entire Mall of America (here in Minnesota) days after she had surgery. Maybe that is the problem. What’s good for HER isn’t good for ME. She said I can do abdominal exercises like crunches. That just seems crazy! I’m gonna exercise at my own pace and listen to my body.
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Good Grief!!!!!! I know how big that mall is and just because she can do it does not mean she should advise all her patients to do so.
 
suzannethemom said:
Yesterday was my two week check up. I met with my dietician, then the exercise physiologist and finally my surgeon. I guess I’m doing everything wrong. My water intake and protein is low (32 ounces and 18 grams respectively). The dietitian told me in the hospital “Just do your best. You won’t reach the maximum amount for a while. Take your time.” But now everything has changed and I feel so much pressure to do everything perfectly.

I feel like a failure and I have so many new rules to follow. I have to disregard the 30/30 rule until I get to the soft stage. I have to add Fairlife milk to my soup and hot cereal AND add Isopure unflavored powder to reach my protein goal. I have to drink 1/2 of a shake between every meal. I have to exercise every day and rotate cardio and strength training each day because I lost 10 pounds of muscle. The exercise physiologist said if I don’t start building muscle, I will start losing hair and get really weak. I’m so frustrated right now because all I want to do it eat real food and feel satisfied. I’m so sick of eating the same three things: Cream of Wheat, watery soup and shakes. I hate all of this.
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Sorry to hear this. Have you tried Premier Protein water? They have peach and fruit flavored water, I really like the peach. It has 20 grams in 16oz bottle and is "really" good. I strive for 2 a day and then other stuff like water or Crystal Lite. My problem is I am not eating enough (I don't think) no appetite. I am strange, I love my shakes. Good luck you got this!
 
suzannethemom said:
Yesterday was my two week check up. I met with my dietician, then the exercise physiologist and finally my surgeon. I guess I’m doing everything wrong. My water intake and protein is low (32 ounces and 18 grams respectively). The dietitian told me in the hospital “Just do your best. You won’t reach the maximum amount for a while. Take your time.” But now everything has changed and I feel so much pressure to do everything perfectly.

I feel like a failure and I have so many new rules to follow. I have to disregard the 30/30 rule until I get to the soft stage. I have to add Fairlife milk to my soup and hot cereal AND add Isopure unflavored powder to reach my protein goal. I have to drink 1/2 of a shake between every meal. I have to exercise every day and rotate cardio and strength training each day because I lost 10 pounds of muscle. The exercise physiologist said if I don’t start building muscle, I will start losing hair and get really weak. I’m so frustrated right now because all I want to do it eat real food and feel satisfied. I’m so sick of eating the same three things: Cream of Wheat, watery soup and shakes. I hate all of this.
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I’m just being honest here, you will lose hair regardless of what you do. The trauma/stress your body has undergone and lack of nutrients makes this happen. Exercising 5 days a week for 30 min a day is pretty standard and it doesn’t have to be strenuous… It could be just walking or aerobics etc.. Water is your new best friend and it will stay that way from here on out. I’m 10 months out & it’s recommended I reach 64oz a day. It just takes a day or two of slacking off and I promise you will be in the hospital hooked up to an IV so I stress the importance of water to every bariatric patient. Don’t let the protein goals bother you much. My doctor had goals for me as well but as soon as I talked to the hospital AND my nutritionist, they both said they purposely do NOT set these requirements for any of their patients for the simple fact that people will over eat just to get these goals in. So they just say to make sure your plate is always 70% protein and the rest can be carbs/fruits/veggies etc. You will get used to eating your protein first because it’s what our bodies need. Congrats on your surgery. The first month or so is mentally draining. I spent most of that time crying non stop but I’m also a big baby lol. It’s true when people say that “it WILL get better”… take care.
 
Also guys....and Im not a surgeon or your physician...but I saw this video last night about why you SHOULDNT work out a ton right after the surgery and it blew my mind. Just food for thought?
 
Dr. Vuong is specifically talking about going to the gym for a more intense workout. I don’t have a gym membership. I am trying to incorporate more walking. I totally agree with his logic that a lack of calories is going to increase my hunger if I over exercise. That’s why I’m walking at my own pace and listening to my body.
 
suzannethemom said:
Dr. Vuong is specifically talking about going to the gym for a more intense workout. I don’t have a gym membership. I am trying to incorporate more walking. I totally agree with his logic that a lack of calories is going to increase my hunger if I over exercise. That’s why I’m walking at my own pace and listening to my body.
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I've always believed our bodies were designed for walking as our primary form of exercise. If you think about it, carrying our weight around is the "perfect" weight bearing exercise, and if you can walk up & down stairs, so much the better. You got this. Rock on! ❤❤
 
suzannethemom said:
Yesterday was my two week check up. I met with my dietician, then the exercise physiologist and finally my surgeon. I guess I’m doing everything wrong. My water intake and protein is low (32 ounces and 18 grams respectively). The dietitian told me in the hospital “Just do your best. You won’t reach the maximum amount for a while. Take your time.” But now everything has changed and I feel so much pressure to do everything perfectly.

I feel like a failure and I have so many new rules to follow. I have to disregard the 30/30 rule until I get to the soft stage. I have to add Fairlife milk to my soup and hot cereal AND add Isopure unflavored powder to reach my protein goal. I have to drink 1/2 of a shake between every meal. I have to exercise every day and rotate cardio and strength training each day because I lost 10 pounds of muscle. The exercise physiologist said if I don’t start building muscle, I will start losing hair and get really weak. I’m so frustrated right now because all I want to do it eat real food and feel satisfied. I’m so sick of eating the same three things: Cream of Wheat, watery soup and shakes. I hate all of this.
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There is a protein powder drink at Walmart for 17 dollars its called Body Fortress, 1 scoop has 60 g of Whey protein and 3 grams of sugar. It's what I use so 1 glass of this and you will have met your protein needs for the day. I like the Cookies and cream flavor the best.
 
K. Leavy said:
There is a protein powder drink at Walmart for 17 dollars its called Body Fortress, 1 scoop has 60 g of Whey protein and 3 grams of sugar. It's what I use so 1 glass of this and you will have met your protein needs for the day. I like the Cookies and cream flavor the best.
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I don't want to step on anyone's toes, but I think I read we only can absorb 30gs of protein at a time. Therefore the 60g scoop would need to be divided into 2 servings daily for the maximum benefit. That cookies and cream sounds good. Do you mix it in lowfat/skim milk? I think I'll check into that next visit to Wally World. Thanks.
 
You know your body better than anyone else. Be proud and confident of your choices. Everyone who has the WLS goes through their days differently. We experience this journey individually. We are not robots, your journey is yours and you do not need to live up to unrealistic expectations based on someone else’s program. Being that dr was positive I would say doc is doing better than his pushy staff. Set goals for yourself that you can reach. Don’t beat yourself up. You are special and need to see that in yourself.
 
KarenWV said:
I don't want to step on anyone's toes, but I think I read we only can absorb 30gs of protein at a time. Therefore the 60g scoop would need to be divided into 2 servings daily for the maximum benefit. That cookies and cream sounds good. Do you mix it in lowfat/skim milk? I think I'll check into that next visit to Wally World. Thanks.
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I think you're right about only being able to absorb 30g at a time. Husband was telling me this tonight in the car!
 
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