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ofiesty2

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Hi Everyone,
In my family my nickname is Fiesty and I live in Charlottesville Virginia. I am in my mid 30's, and I have 2 small children. I made the I decision within the past 2 weeks to consider Bariatric surgery. I am over 100 pounds overweight. The weight loss surgery has been a difficult decision to make. However, I want to be healthier, I want to be a better example to my children, and do anything to increase my chances of living longer, and try to develop more confidence. I do know now that I am an emotional eater, and I want help with it. My first appointment is on July 17, 2019. I will be the first person in my family to have a surgery such as this. Some of the health problems that I have include Type 2 Diabetes ,IBS. Sleep Apnea, back pain, fibromyalgia, and Chronic Backpain. I am ashamed of needing to get this surgery. My weight didn't get this bad until after about 2 years of losing my grandmother, dealing with the loss of 2 cousins, 3 years after the loss of my nephew aged 11, then the death of my auntie. I ended up having a nervous breakdown, turning to food for comfort, and I became an emotional eater. As stated above I am ashamed of needing this surgery. However, I am tired of looking in the mirror and wanting to cry, I am tired of withholding myself from being in public, I also am tired of not feeling comfortable taking pictures. I want to be healthier for myself and my children. I am willing to do the work to get the surgery and afterwards. Right now, I am looking for support throughout this journey. I know that I am in the very beginning stages. I am also scared of any type of surgery because I have had my gallbladder removed 7 years ago, I ended up with IBS, when I had my tonsils removed I had a bad reaction to the pain medicine I was given and I ended up in a coma, and then the last surgery I had, I had a polyp removed, and the doctor didn't do the surgery properly, and that was a complication. Due to those experiences, I am scared. I am more so scared about being put under, and some complications. I know some of my fears I shouldn't have. I do feel very alone. I haven't told anyone in my family yet because I don't think they will have faith in me., they are very judgmental I have lost weight and gained it back. In addition to the surgery I am looking forward to the tools that I will learn. I am looking for support, advice, and anyone who is willing to listen. Thank you for reading my post.
 
Fiesty now that you have made the decision you need to work on addressing your emotional eating so your surgery is a success. I myself learn from childhood food was to be enjoyed and celebrated since that showed we were finacially okay. I was also a stress eater so I had to find other things to replace eating in those moments. I had a complete hysterectomy at 33 by 38 I started battleing the weight. Having the RYGB is something I have wanted for a very long time. I grateful that I have less then 100 lbs that I need to lose but better yet I will be free of type two diabeties. I have friends and family supporting me because I deserve a healthy life. Making this decision says you love yourself and you have to care for yourself to be the best mom you can. Good luck on your journey.
 
@Dogs and Cats,
Thanks for the reply. Although addressing the reasons why I became an emotional eater will be hard. I am very much so looking forward to the journey. I actually thought about it before now and I was talked out of it. Thank you for the lovely comments. I really appreciate that. I think that the lack of support will be there for a little while. However, regardless of what anyone says I will have the surgery. I’m not being talked out of it. I want to be healthier. I’m glad you took your journey. Good luck to you as well.
Thanks,
ofiesty2
 
ofiesty2 said:
@Dogs and Cats,
Thanks for the reply. Although addressing the reasons why I became an emotional eater will be hard. I am very much so looking forward to the journey. I actually thought about it before now and I was talked out of it. Thank you for the lovely comments. I really appreciate that. I think that the lack of support will be there for a little while. However, regardless of what anyone says I will have the surgery. I’m not being talked out of it. I want to be healthier. I’m glad you took your journey. Good luck to you as well.
Thanks,
ofiesty2
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Fiesty
You are very welcome. Here if you need support.
 
Hi! I will be seeing my surgeon on the 17th. Have had all my labs all left is cardiac stress test. I'm in California so not sure but with that insurance you will need to authorized first. Your internist or GP will help you with that. All I can say is get started on you labs because your doctor should know which ones. That will get you started on getting your surgery sooner! Will keep you in my thoughts and best of luck!!
 
Hi,
I have my first visit on July 17th. What a coincidence!! Thanks for your kind thoughts, I’ve been told I have to wait six months. Although it seems like a long time. I understand that testing, counseling, more stuff has to be done so that the surgery ends up being successful. Thanks for the reply. I’m so nervous and scared but I am looking forward to this journey. Thanks
 
Brenda the process is very long. I started in November 2018 and had surgery July 1 2019. You will go through a lot of emotions going through the process but what a reward when you get there. I acknowledged my emotions sometimes frustrated in the slow process then anxious right at the end. Just remember each step gets you closer to your goal.
 
Thanks for the information. I know that the process is going to be emotional and long. In some ways I look forward to processing those emotions. I know that some of my issues with being an emotional eater goes back to my childhood and other trauma. I think that along the way I will have to remind myself the outcome. Thanks for your information.
 
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