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First major challenge post surgery

Tokash

Tokash

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Next month will mark a year post surgery. I haven't really lost any weight since 6 months but I am ok with that. Sure I would like to lose more but I'm also content where I am at.

Now, I have always been awear I can be an emotional eatter...mostly when I am bored which is why I try to work in office as much as I can because the days home kill me. However I'm going through my first huge emotional challenge post surgery and I am concerned as well as heightened awareness of how this might go. Typically in the past when sad I do not eat....

Yesterday I learned that our neighbor. Who we are very close to, like grandparents to my kids and parents to us, had passed unexpectiedly after a freak accident that happened on the 2nd (my birthday and I am kicking myself for a few things with this). I have the amazingly unhealthy ability to compartmentalize stuff and move forward. However this is the first death my kids have had to deal with- they are 4 and 9. The 9 year old gets it, the 4 year old has so many questions because all she understands about deathbed that we don't come back from heaven. My heart is breaking for them and everytime I get a question or see my oldest processingnher emotions I break down. He'll I had to take the car to the dealership for work this morong and got tearful on the drive simply thinking about how he wouldn't go shopping again.

My earing has reduced- mostly kind of forget that I need to eat until I'm painfully hungry. Yesterday when I ate I just wanted to puke. I know this shall pass and I will be fine but I am more concerned about liquids.. ibhave been struggling lately to keep them up anyway but I am finding that I also have pretty much forget about drinking. Because I don't ever desire water and am hardly ever thirsty I have to be very conscious about drinking at all times. My brain is in space to nutrtion at this point. I will also say I am not very versed in grief as I have been lucky in life to not lose people and this is only my second loss.
 
Grief is something we can all prepare for because it is inevitable, but honestly, there’s no telling how we’ll react. I am sorry for your loss. Set a timer for eating even if you aren’t hungry, just have a little something. I’ve been through a lot of loss, my children have been through a couple, and it’s never easy. I just let mine ask all the questions they can think of and answer them the best I can. Mourn your loss, but do not forget your journey. Cry when you feel it, suppressing it won’t do you any good. Recognizing that you compartmentalize in an unhealthy way is a good first step in changing some of those habits. We’re here for you if you have more you want to talk through.
 
I'm sorry to hear about your neighbor. It is so difficult to deal with death, especially when it is the first one your children have experienced. You're trying to teach them how to deal with grief, when you're not really sure how to deal with it yourself. There's no easy way to get through their grief or your own.
While you are struggling to remember to eat and get your liquids in, maybe you should try adding protein shakes or protein water back in for a short time. At least you would not end up so hungry by the time you remember to eat and it would give you a much needed liquid boost.
 
missyinacage said:
I'm sorry to hear about your neighbor. It is so difficult to deal with death, especially when it is the first one your children have experienced. You're trying to teach them how to deal with grief, when you're not really sure how to deal with it yourself. There's no easy way to get through their grief or your own.
While you are struggling to remember to eat and get your liquids in, maybe you should try adding protein shakes or protein water back in for a short time. At least you would not end up so hungry by the time you remember to eat and it would give you a much needed liquid boost.
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I always have at least one protein shake a day with my coffee. Lately I have been doing a smoothie at lunch with a shake base.

The shock has faded some and am finding myself staying a little more present with less checking out. For now I am focusing on supporting my kids and spouse (this celebration of life is the same day as my father in laws death anniversary and my spouse is a stuffer). Aside from that I am trying tonkeep my head busy at work to preoccupy my mind. When I get home it's tough as he was so often warkingnin the yard/garden that almost daily there was a hi or smart remark shouted across the street to each other.
 
JudyNY said:
I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. It is hard to watch our kids deal with loss, to be strong for them when you are grieving too is so difficult.
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Thank you. The scale is showing my not great week amd need to get my head back in the game. I go to my regular doc Friday to address some other health things I'm not happy with and to push on them again about why I am always exhausted...their "your overweight" excuse doesn't work anymore...but I'm sure they will try given to stupid bmi still says I'm obese.
 
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