Hello and welcome! I had the bypass in June of 2020 at the age of 50. My goal weight was170. I got down to 153 for 1 week then stayed at 158-163 for about a year. Now I battle a regain. BUT I had set realistic goals. Statistically people who have the bypass can expect to lose between 60-80% of their excess weight. So if you are 100 lbs overweight, 60-80 lbs are expected. And you can also statistically expect a small regain. I lost extra so that if I gained back 10 I'd be at or under 170 .. My original goal. Which I am. (166 as of today!)
So make a realistic goal. Don't stop if you hit it. Many people never gain an ounce back. Some people gain most back. Its important to acknowledge who you are and plan accordingly It isn't a miracle, its a tool.
The next few weeks I would suggest focusing on building new habits. Give up caffeine now. You don't need the headaches of caffeine withdrawal in addition to post op pain and fatigue. Carbonation should go as well. Drink water. Focus on protein.
As for telling others, that is a personal decision. I told everyone. Some people tell no on sand only admit to drastically changing their diet. Either way, people are going to talk and sadly not everyone will be positive. If you tell, there are those that think its the easy way. (Hint*its NOT!!) If you don't tell, people will say you did anyway. This isn't about them its about you. So whatever YOU are comfortable saying is entirely fine. Its no ones business.
Good luck and plz keep us posted!
