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Nerves are ridiculous

canecorso81

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I am starting to think I'm gonna talk myself out of this surgery. I am so scared of the pain. I am 100% mentally ready to change my lifestyle but my anxiety is through the roof. I need to stop reading things online I think.
Is there really a tube hanging from your nose and stomach after your surgery?
 
AWWW man Diane you always make me feel so much better. I do have a sister that sounds like she could be related to yours LOL. I have not told her and don't plan on it until I feel ok. Everything is always a contest to her. So I have my son and my mother. They will be giving out enough support for a whole bunch of people.
I guess the not knowing is what is killing me and it makes my stomach turn thinking of what is physically going to happen to my body during surgery.
I am a very independent women and try to act strong so much but it gets tiring. I think I am going to seek counseling once I am all better to help me with my anxiety. I think the weirdest things all the time.
I know this is going to help me so much in the long run and a million percent want it done just got to get over my fear of the unknown.
 
I am starting to think I'm gonna talk myself out of this surgery. I am so scared of the pain. I am 100% mentally ready to change my lifestyle but my anxiety is through the roof. I need to stop reading things online I think.
Is there really a tube hanging from your nose and stomach after your surgery?
I had the RnY in June and was not in very much pain at all. I didn't even come home with pain meds, didn't need them and NO, I do not have a high pain tolerance!! I did have a drainage tube from my stomach, which they took out before I came home. I thought that would be super gross (it kinda is) but it didn't hurt so I just put it in my gown pocket and didn't look at it. The week leading up to surgery, I was a nervous wreck. I couldn't sleep and just kept wondering if I was making the right decision, if I should just "try harder" (like so many people love to suggest), so many things. I am only 2 weeks out, I feel great and I am so glad that I had the surgery. It's natural to be anxious and question yourself. But, you worked hard to get here, so you know you want it. And yes, stop reading people's horror stories. People are much more likely to share their bad experiences than their good.
 
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I am starting to think I'm gonna talk myself out of this surgery. I am so scared of the pain. I am 100% mentally ready to change my lifestyle but my anxiety is through the roof. I need to stop reading things online I think.
Is there really a tube hanging from your nose and stomach after your surgery?
Like Diane mentioned don't overthink this or pay attention to the haters. As everyone else mentioned pain varies from person to person but i had the RNY last week and was up and walking hours after with no pain. Truth be told the most pain i experienced was the nurse trying to find a vein for the IV and not to be too graphic my first two BMs.
 
I am starting to think I'm gonna talk myself out of this surgery. I am so scared of the pain. I am 100% mentally ready to change my lifestyle but my anxiety is through the roof. I need to stop reading things online I think.
Is there really a tube hanging from your nose and stomach after your surgery?
Hey i just had my surgery Monday and can promise you that its not really that painful but you will feel sore.
Your up and walking the same day after surgery. you will be sore and that's about it, but walking will relieve that pain because they say its just gas pain that will work its way down as long as you walk.
 
I had the RnY in June and was not in very much pain at all. I didn't even come home with pain meds, didn't need them and NO, I do not have a high pain tolerance!! I did have a drainage tube from my stomach, which they took out before I came home. I thought that would be super gross (it kinda is) but it didn't hurt so I just put it in my gown pocket and didn't look at it. The week leading up to surgery, I was a nervous wreck. I couldn't sleep and just kept wondering if I was making the right decision, if I should just "try harder" (like so many people love to suggest), so many things. I am only 2 weeks out, I feel great and I am so glad that I had the surgery. It's natural to be anxious and question yourself. But, you worked hard to get here, so you know you want it. And yes, stop reading people's horror stories. People are much more likely to share their bad experiences than their good.
Thank you so much for helping me calm down with everyone's experiences. I had my pre op today and it made things seem so real. She suggested I take one of my anxiety pills before hand. I only take them as an as need basis. I believe this counts lol. She did inform me that my mother cannot come in and wait with me which is shitty but I understand the reasoning. I just keep telling myself I GOT THIS!
 
Can people see that you joined that fb page? I want to join I just don't want all my friends list to also see.
It depends on the group privacy settings are, and what your own privacy settings are. If it is a private group, then no one should be able to see that you joined - definitely cannot see what you post. If it is not private, you will need to rely on your own privacy settings to shut out the ability for people to see your posts.
 
A Stomach binder was included in my surgical package and I just mentioned it in a post yesterday. I never had to ask for it or buy one. I don't know what your experience was or is but the stomach binder has been discussed here many many times. And a number of people from the Facebook group now are in this group because they didn't like that group.

I don't think it is really apprpriate to use another group's platform in order to recommend the group you prefer.

And since you have only posted 17 times in 3 months to this group, do you really think that you have given it a fair hearing? We probably would have had a lot to say about your questions or comments or shared experience, but we have hardly even heard from you.

I'm glad you're getting something out of your Facebook group, but given Facebook's negative reputation and privacy violations, I wouldn't touch it with a ten-foot pole. I'm not on Facebook, although I used to be. I would never sign up for it again.

And I have been with this independent group for 16 months and I could point out at least two or three dozen people here who have inspired me and given me answers to questions and just generally been wonderfully supportive of me and everyone else in our Journeys.

This is a great group. I want to thank everyone here for your participation and especially for your inspiration. I cannot imagine a better group and many many of you have expressed the same belief.

I'm truly sorry you were offended with a post here. I feel that the more support you can have, the better. My intention was only to help others. Facebook is not something I have loved and I am very private there but I am being truthful in having gotten a lot of guidance from the group just as I have gotten a lot of help from this group. I've also never been attacked as I'm being attacked right now.

I can't take off my account but will not be returning to this group.

Best of luck to everyone here.
 
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