Hi, Beth. Welcome to the group. I had the bypass in June2020. I am currently between 5- 10lbs over my "new normal", which lasted for almost 2 years. I keep having to rein myself in.
I 100% agree with Diane regarding measuring and tracking your intake. I try to do it at least 4 days a week. Otherwise I end up out of control. I can eat more than I should and I also don't really get negative effects from sugar or fat. So, I can very easily end up eating WAY too many calories.
I was hoping to have surgery and just magically eat like a " normal" person. But, it turns out that most normal people ALSO have to watch what they eat. Everyone can (and has) eaten too much. I am going to have to be aware of that for the rest of my life. I am probably also going to have tho measure out correct serving sizes forever as well.
I really love food. But, I am going to have to love me more. Self care is more than massages and pedicures. And eating a cinnamon roll only gives me enjoyment for a moment. Being truly healthy pays dividends I might not feel today but I'll feel them for years to come.