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So Many Unexpected Emotions

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MoMo507

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My VSG surgery is scheduled for this Monday 3/25 and I've become increasingly nervous, even second guessing this decision. I'm worried about the what ifs, am I doing the right thing, can't I do this without the surgery, and on and on. I'm a person of great faith but this has shaken me and the fact that I'm shaken is only adding to my frustration. Then there's the judgement - I've been told that I don't look "that fat" and should be able to do this on my own without surgery. Throw my hanger from the pre-op diet in there and you've got the makings of my emotional few days. Can anyone relate to this? Any words of encouragement? Any 20/20 words of wisdom from someone who's been through this? Thanks everyone!
 
Thanks so much for your feedback! I am really excited about the surgery but at the end of the day surgery IS a big deal and I think a little anxiety is to be expected. I'm a single Mom and the thought of not waking up from the surgery is SCARY, but the thought of my daughter losing me from being unhealthy is scary too. I'm actually feeling much better today and am ready and prepared for my big day on Monday! Still hungry, but not necessarily hangry lol so that's improved too . Thanks again!
 
Momo507- It is good to know you are feeling better. I underwent my gastric sleeve surgery 29 hours ago. If you asked me last week how I felt, it would be the same as you did. I was so anxious and doubtful. We have our own journeys and no one goes into this with the same story. I read something on this board that changed my perspective last week. In talking about backsliding and gaining the weight back, someone asks themself, "...did I risk my life for this candy bar?"
That's what this is all about, risking a life to saving a life. We have to be thoroughly ready to say goodbye to our old life choices and dive into the new ones. Good luck to you!!
 
MoMo507-I feel much better than I thought. The laparoscopic incision areas are sore, but manageable. Sipping liquids is hard to manage since I was a gulper prior to the operation. How small can a sip be? I am cranky from not sleeping much in the hospital. Nothing unexpected. Maybe I'll learn more in a couple days. Thank you for asking!
 
3 days post-op and I'm barely getting in the protein and liquids I thought I would. Now that all the anesthetic and pain meds have worn off, I have a couple laparoscopic incisions that really hurt. The doctor said he met up with some scar tissue from my laparoscopic hysterectomy from 7 years ago and they will hurt more.
But really, the actual discomfort and overall issues do not match everything I imagined.
 
I hope you everything goes fine monday. Don't feel to bad you are not the only mother going through this. My date is not set just yet but it is coming soon. I have 4 boys. The oldest is 13 years old and the youngest is 5 years. You have to have faith that god is watching over you and the doctor are doing the best they are trained to do. They was trained to do these surgeries with out worry. There will be other people there to too help out. They are not going to let anything happen to you. Just remember you are doing this for a reason and that reason matters more than anything to you. Keep that in you sights and that fear will go away. I have my days but I push them away because I have 4 boys that are running and playing and I want so badly to be able to do stuff with them. Keep your head up.
 
MoMo507 said:
Thanks so much for all the encouragement! Tex, how are you feeling now, any better? Pain getting any easier? My surgery was pushed to this Thursday instead of tomorrow. I'm still in good spirits and feeling positive about the surgery.
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Hi Momo- Thanks for asking. I am 6 days post-op and the pain from the incisions is gone. I haven't experienced any nausea at all. Watching my husband eat flavorful foods doesn't bother me like I thought it would. I'm feeling optimistic so far.
 
Hi all! I had a successful surgery on Thursday and I spent my first night at home last night. The first couple of days I questioned what I'd done, the pain and overall feeling was so intense but I asked for a different medication regiment and that definitely helped. I completed a successful swallow test on Saturday morning to ensure no leakage and was discharged 3 days post op. I left the hospital yesterday feeling good, knowing that I made the best decision for myself! The bloating/gassiness is my biggest complaint but moving around is super important to combat that. Don't overdue it, take your time and ask for help. I'm so incredibly blessed to have a support system that has rallied around me and my daughter. Prior to surgery I was freaked out that I'd be hungry, but post op the idea of just drinking a bottle of water is daunting lol. My body is in a delicate state and I will respect it and treat it as such. I'm going to attempt a shower today, which I'm looking forward to... So funny how you appreciate the little things, showers and passing gas lol. Thanks everyone for the support! Texnoble, how are you holding up darling??
 
Hi Momo-You sound like you are doing great! Is the swallow test common? I never heard of it. Today is my two week anniversary. I am a little down. I lost 17 pounds in the 2 weeks pre-op and only 4 pounds in the two weeks post op. I have my first post op appointment with the doctor tomorrow. I haven't been physically active and that will have to change. Food still isn't an issue at all. Getting the water down is still a problem. Keep us posted Momo! Best wishes to you.
 
Texnoble don't worry you will get on track. You have to think you have been recovering. Take it easy on your self. Start slow so you do not hurt your self.
 
I feel like a dud just sitting around lol, but I have to remind myself what my doctor told me which is that it is now my full-time job to heal. This is a journey and I should remember to embrace ever moment. I haven't been nauseous just experiencing constant abdominal gurgling, so I've been taking an antacid to combat that.
 
So you are ready to get moving that is your problem. You should keep your self busy. Do you have anything that you can do that you enjoy?
 
I had my 2 week follow-up with the doctor. He just brushed off the depression, fatigue, dehydration and constipation as all being normal. He said that I can get off the liquids and start soft foods. I immediately had a scrambled egg. I'm trying to up my water and activity level. At 2 weeks he said I can resume my pool exercise class. That was good news! After this appointment I feel more excited and a step closer to feeling normal.
 
that is good. The way you was feeling was normal. It was in all the papers I got about the bypass surgery. I am glad that you get to progress in your diet and you are able to begin to move more. congrats. have fun with you class.
 
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