Started on full liquids today

[Merroc29]

I have been reading lots of different posts and it seems like not everyone has to go the full liquid route prior to surgery. The Dr I am with that is the route I am going and I am on day 1 with 13 more to go. It seems to be going well, I'm not overly hungry to the point that I'm getting hangry...I'm sure I will have a day that I will have to get over the hump and be told I'm being a brat.
I've been very lucky and everyone I've informed that almost everyone I have told I'm having the surgery has been supportive. The only one is my mother and she lives with my husband and I after my father got sick. Her reaction was I will try not to nag you...right now it is killing her that she can't blab my news to everyone she doesn't care that I'm a private person you would think after 45 years she would know that I'm private but she doesn't get sometimes that I deserve my life and happiness and I don't have to make others happy.... enough about that.. sorry I really needed to vent.
I would really love to know how people handle someone who speaks negatively of your decision because my first thought is I don't care what people say they aren't my boss and you can't tell me what to do....yes I know that isn't what I should say, which is why I'm asking how you have handled things.
Thank you have a wonderful day

 

[missdarmitage]

Hi Merroc. I have just had to overcome my first "doubter". One of my co-workers who has become a great friend over the years, was having problems accepting that this is what I wanted to do. Everyday I would hear "but you have lost this much weight so far on your own, why not go for more". I can't blame her for that thought, after all, I have had the same one so many times! It was bugging me that she wasn't listening as I would tell her about the benefits or maybe I just wasn't stressing the right points, but I had been worrying over this for awhile. I wasn't worried about her approving, I just wanted her to understand (I was going to do this with or without her approval) because I could see she was genuinely worried for me. This morning when we got in to work (we are always the first ones in by about 20 minutes), I sat her down and had a chat. I just flat out explained that I go through my day hungry. I have restricted what I am eating and how much I am eating as she has witnessed. But I have stretched out my stomach so much over my 37 years that what I am eating still leaves me feeling empty. I may be satisfied for an hour or two, but then I am hungry again. And I have the willpower to deny myself the food that I am craving and from snacking in between meal times, but the hunger pain is almost constantly there. I told her I just don't want to be hungry any longer. I want to focus on other feelings in my body and mind, not just that one. So for the first time she finally understands me and she finally stopped being Debbie Downer about it. So just be honest about what you are feeling. It isn't just because we want to lose the weight and get healthy which is what people see. It is about the feelings inside and the pain and hurt we go through just trying to make our lives better. This tool is going to help us on the that journey. Aren't we supposed to be able to ask for whatever help we need when we need it? It just turns out we don't need money or physical labor to solve our problem, we need a medical procedure to get us to where we are going. I hope this helps!