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Staying positive in a bad situation

MANDY2910

MANDY2910

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Just flew from MO to WY to watch my daughter graduate high school. I fretted for 2 weeks about not fitting into the seats in the airplane and needing a belt extender. Well today it happened: I needed both :(. I was so embarrassed and couldn’t get situated in my seat and felt like the whole plane was watching me. I’m not going to lie, I’m heartbroken. Then to cap it all off, I am staying with family who hasn’t seen me for awhile and the first thing my aunt says is “you’ve put on some weight haven’t you?” Like I don’t know that! It has been a very frustrating day and I’m tired and sad and a little defeated. BUT… tomorrow is another day and I have to keep looking up and keep fighting.
 
I'm sorry you've had such a rough go. BUT your daughter is graduating high school, so enjoy that. Also, you have a plan in place to regain control of your weight, health and life, It is just taking time. Your daughter did not graduate high school without putting in the time and the work, You are doing the same. Your time is coming!!
 
Oh Mandy, bless your heart, what a tough experience you went through. The good news is you will soon be on the other side, and that will be nothing more than a bad dream that you'll never go through again.

Congratulations on your daughter's graduation. You know you would walk through fire to get to her, and she is the focus of this amazing day. I'm sure she is overjoyed that you are there to love on & support her as she begins her new chapter. ❤❤
 
I'm so sorry about that experience on the plane. I would be mortified. I can feel your discomfort and im so sorry that happened! I think you're still a great mom that you got on that plane knowing what might happen - and you did it willingly.. imagine after the surgery now wonderful it will be when no one even notices you putting on a seat buckle or any other mundane thing!
 
You are not alone. I had to stop amusement parks when I kept gaining and not losing. The safety harnesses would no longer fit. This has been several years ago so don’t misunderstand , I am 15 months out past RNY surgery (bad reflux) and 124 pounds down currently. Still not ready for amusement park but that day will come.

For your daughter she will love you no matter what, particularly that you cared to make the effort to acknowledge her accomplishment. May the rest of your visit go well.
 
MANDY2910 said:
Just flew from MO to WY to watch my daughter graduate high school. I fretted for 2 weeks about not fitting into the seats in the airplane and needing a belt extender. Well today it happened: I needed both :(. I was so embarrassed and couldn’t get situated in my seat and felt like the whole plane was watching me. I’m not going to lie, I’m heartbroken. Then to cap it all off, I am staying with family who hasn’t seen me for awhile and the first thing my aunt says is “you’ve put on some weight haven’t you?” Like I don’t know that! It has been a very frustrating day and I’m tired and sad and a little defeated. BUT… tomorrow is another day and I have to keep looking up and keep fighting.
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Tomorrow IS another day. And another chance to improve ourselves. I Believe you are awesome for making the trip! It takes great strength to be afraid to do something and doing it anyway because you know you should.
 
MANDY2910 said:
Just flew from MO to WY to watch my daughter graduate high school. I fretted for 2 weeks about not fitting into the seats in the airplane and needing a belt extender. Well today it happened: I needed both :(. I was so embarrassed and couldn’t get situated in my seat and felt like the whole plane was watching me. I’m not going to lie, I’m heartbroken. Then to cap it all off, I am staying with family who hasn’t seen me for awhile and the first thing my aunt says is “you’ve put on some weight haven’t you?” Like I don’t know that! It has been a very frustrating day and I’m tired and sad and a little defeated. BUT… tomorrow is another day and I have to keep looking up and keep fighting.
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Sending you the biggest hug ever!!! Please remain blessed & beautiful!!! xoxo
 
dianeseattle said:
One of my sisters ripped me a new one some years ago when I noted it looked like she'd lost weight!

The truth is, it's potentially hurtful to evaluate any aspect of someone's physical appearance. Like, why did I feel it was permissible for me to comment on something that is so deeply associated with self-esteem.? Why join the neurotic American behavior of using hurtful observations as casual conversation, rather than taking a moment to share a kindness that doesn't affect one's ability to fit in?

I really felt her anger and pain. Now I take an extra moment to share an observation about someone's fine behavior, not their looks

But I'd also like to have some snappy comebacks for the dullards who don't get it.

Mandy, you're a winner
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Thanks Diane! Graduation was wonderful and I was so happy I came. I flew over 1000 miles to be with her yesterday and it seems like such a small thing that I had to go through looking back. She was beautiful
 
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