Stop take a deep breath, and then breathe... Now is the time to learn how take care of yourself.
I started getting calls 3 days after surgery and very politely told people, "Look you need to remember I had major surgery 3 days ago. Leave me alone."
I got the "Uh Uh UH I am not trying to bother you," my response was "Well then why are you calling me every 5 minutes AND e-mailing me every 3 minutes?"
Now is the time to grasp that you do matter, you are important and that people will learn to survive and make choices and decisions on their own..
You need to care about yourself more than you do others.
"If you cannot take care of yourself first and foremost, then you will not be able to care for others." I have said this for many years. It was learned first hand 14 years ago when my oldest had a stroke.