I'm sorry you feel that way, and that the three members who gave you a thumbs-up also apparently feel that way. This is a bariatric support group, not a diet pill support group. Our discussion here is supposed to be about bariatric surgery. It is not supposed to be about diet pills.
But I'm even more sorry that you felt the need to be rude to me in a space that should be devoted to support and information about bariatric surgery. Are you the arbiter of what should be expressed and how it should be expressed? Personal opinions about another member do not belong in our threads. We have the ability to message each other privately if we have something to say.
And by the way have I ever been preachy and not supportive of you? Or of Brenda or Bill or Lois? I have made more than 2100 posts to this group and I have usually heard that my posts were very helpful.
One thing I'm absolutely certain of, is that I have never taken the inventory of another group member. It's a group with a lot of personalities in it and I have been insulted many times. Usually, I just shine it on.
I appreciate the structure of this group and the guidelines for posting and all the forums and sub forums that cover so many things.
I responded to this comment: "Has anyone been able to use a medication for pre-surgery requirements sucessfully?" To me that indicated that our new friend had no intention of complying with the doctor's and nutritionist's plans for the pre-op, which is an essential step before being qualified for bariatric surgery. Taking a pill instead of following your doctor's instructions indicates to me that you are still in the wrong frame of mind. I will not support that.
My opinion on this subject is as valid as yours. Yet I get the impression you think your opinion was more important and expressed better than mine.
But for sure I would never evaluate one of your posts critically in front of everyone in the group. You have ruined my effectiveness here. No one's going to listen to me now.
You have been here a little over 4 months. I have been here since the 5th of March, 2019. And even with that "seniority," I would never say anything to anyone like you said to me. If you searched through my 2100 postings, many of which I made before you arrived, you would see plainly that I am all about being supportive.
And finally, you need to know that you really hurt my feelings deeply. people who hurt other people's feelings always say the same thing: "I'm not saying this to hurt your feelings." Well then why are you saying it? Do you think is going to amount to something constructive?
And since Brenda, Bill, and Lois think that was a really good thing that you wrote, I am even more hurt. Maybe you don't care. The damage has been done. On top of everything else that has been going on in my life and in the world, now I get this.
By the by the way, I am right about diet pills. And if you would ask your doctor you would find out that diet pills are never okay to achieve the pre-op that is required of anyone who wants to have bariatric surgery. Using diet pills instead of complying with the required ramp-up how to eat is almost like fraud.
I'm done.