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LJ Johnson

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Happy day Amazing beautiful family!
I just now completed my first phone call from my assigned BRS healthcare representative through my insurance company, it was an requirement that I register. The call with extremely well and she’s a rock star. She asked so many questions and was extremely knowledgeable as well. She said that almost everyone will at some point go through a regret stage after the gastric bypass surgery but ensured me that’s it perfectly normal, she also provided me with a nurse line information when and if I need to speak with a counselor. She also asked if I had joined a support group and I just started go on and on and on about my online support family and said that made here feel very good. I expressed to her that I would be lost without each one of you. One of my fears comes because my husband is not supportive at this time he’s old school and feels it’s not needed because I lost weight before on my own so what’s the problem now he thinks I’m wanting the easy way out and I try to be the good spouse and just listen. My sister also says she don’t think I need it because I’ve lost weight before and I’m not big enough. One of my cousins says I’m going to die because it’s a dangerous surgery. My 31 year old son and oldest child is 100% on board with me and my only supporter at this time. One of my girlfriends said you want be approved and I was and she has not spoken to me since. All of negative people that I’ve named never once asked me why and when I did offer to explain I was blown out off as if I was making excuses and that hurt me because it’s family that I love. Please excuse any typos because I’m crying as I text. My BRS healthcare coach representative, my son and you all my online support family are on my side I want each one of you to know that I sincerely appreciate each of you more than words can express and thank you all THIS BIG!!!!!! My son will be OOT the day of my surgery and my sister will let me know if she can make arrangements with her job to take off even though she don’t think I need it. That’s why I wanted to just Uber there and back home because my husband will be OOT as work as well. Thank for listening and thank you for always being a beautiful blessing
 
I’m going to stick with my decision like Pooh on honey and I refuse to allow the negative people I love to discourage me just because that choose not to understand. I know that I Got This and God has me because He has not brought me this far to leave me. My son/only child and my/you online support family will be there for/with me and I’m thankful for it.
 
The haters gonna hate sweetie. No matter what you do, when it gets right down to it they simply don’t understand. It is hard to love someone through their ignorance but I know you do. I have only told three people about my surgery. My husband is on board but my sister and mom are soooo negative. They tell me the same line of crap your family is telling you. They may never understand, but once they see you doing so well it might change their outlook. Stay strong and steadfast. This is the path you have chosen. Don’t let negativity change your course. You aren’t doing this for anyone else. You are doing it for yourself!
 
Most of us bariatric patients are excellent dieters and have lost weight. But we put it back on and more. I retired, and at age 68 did not want to spend of my life agonizing over my weight. I got sleeved almost 2 years ago and have not regretted it for a moment. Don’t listen to the negativity.
 
MANDY2910 said:
The haters gonna hate sweetie. No matter what you do, when it gets right down to it they simply don’t understand. It is hard to love someone through their ignorance but I know you do. I have only told three people about my surgery. My husband is on board but my sister and mom are soooo negative. They tell me the same line of crap your family is telling you. They may never understand, but once they see you doing so well it might change their outlook. Stay strong and steadfast. This is the path you have chosen. Don’t let negativity change your course. You aren’t doing this for anyone else. You are doing it for yourself!
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Love you to pieces
 
MANDY2910 said:
The haters gonna hate sweetie. No matter what you do, when it gets right down to it they simply don’t understand. It is hard to love someone through their ignorance but I know you do. I have only told three people about my surgery. My husband is on board but my sister and mom are soooo negative. They tell me the same line of crap your family is telling you. They may never understand, but once they see you doing so well it might change their outlook. Stay strong and steadfast. This is the path you have chosen.
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3momchaos said:
Let their doubt fuel your success! Like gasoline on a fire!!
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Love it!!!
 
I have struggled with weight my whole life like most here. I made the decision and then told my mom ( who has always been very negative about my weight. She even a few times suggest the surgery which I flatly refused). I was shocked when she wasn't supportive at first. Now I am almost four months out and it is like she told me to do it. People will come around. You have to make the right decision for you! Don't let anyone talk you out of it and don't feel you have to defend your decision either.
 
LJ Johnson said:
Happy day Amazing beautiful family!
I just now completed my first phone call from my assigned BRS healthcare representative through my insurance company, it was an requirement that I register. The call with extremely well and she’s a rock star. She asked so many questions and was extremely knowledgeable as well. She said that almost everyone will at some point go through a regret stage after the gastric bypass surgery but ensured me that’s it perfectly normal, she also provided me with a nurse line information when and if I need to speak with a counselor. She also asked if I had joined a support group and I just started go on and on and on about my online support family and said that made here feel very good. I expressed to her that I would be lost without each one of you. One of my fears comes because my husband is not supportive at this time he’s old school and feels it’s not needed because I lost weight before on my own so what’s the problem now he thinks I’m wanting the easy way out and I try to be the good spouse and just listen. My sister also says she don’t think I need it because I’ve lost weight before and I’m not big enough. One of my cousins says I’m going to die because it’s a dangerous surgery. My 31 year old son and oldest child is 100% on board with me and my only supporter at this time. One of my girlfriends said you want be approved and I was and she has not spoken to me since. All of negative people that I’ve named never once asked me why and when I did offer to explain I was blown out off as if I was making excuses and that hurt me because it’s family that I love. Please excuse any typos because I’m crying as I text. My BRS healthcare coach representative, my son and you all my online support family are on my side I want each one of you to know that I sincerely appreciate each of you more than words can express and thank you all THIS BIG!!!!!! My son will be OOT the day of my surgery and my sister will let me know if she can make arrangements with her job to take off even though she don’t think I need it. That’s why I wanted to just Uber there and back home because my husband will be OOT as work as well. Thank for listening and thank you for always being a beautiful blessing
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I'm sorry about your family not being on board - especially your husband. I know how much it can make you want to cry when people are second guessing what you want to do.
I will tell you this. I had a lot of really weird looks from people when I would open up about having the surgery. My starting BMI was only 37 first of all - so already people are like "You aren't THAT big"....which is a crummy statement.
But obesity causes so many more problems than just being overweight. SO . MANY. PROBLEMS.
My mom had a massive stroke in 2020. My dad had a pulmonary embolism 8 years ago and my grandmother died of a stroke at 52. Because of all of that I found out that I have a clotting disorder that causes strokes. And guess what? Obesity causes strokes too. I was also pre diabetic - and I had seen my other grandmother lose her toes and her eyesight due to diabetes, and one grandmother lose her leg. I also have high cholesterol which can cause problems with your heart.
When people realize it's so much more than just how you look, and they realize that being obese literally DECREASES YOUR DAYS ON EARTH, they begin to ease up just a little. And the people that really love you will come around eventually. Even if it is after your surgery. My mom was really rude about me wanting to get it. And just 2 days ago I found out it was because she was worried I would be "Skinny" and that would make her jealous......what the heck?!?!?!?
Anyways - stay strong. I will support anyone that wants this surgery because I Know first hand all of the visits and thoughts and worries that go into even makin this decision in the first place. Maybe tell your husband you'd like to talk about it in depth with him. Not the surgery per se, but the problems that obesity can cause.
Oh and one more thing - if you research this - the statistics of someone needing to lose 70 pounds or more go something like this - only 1% of those people will lose the weight as needed and only 2% of THOSE people will keep the weight off. It's insane.
 
CarolKacz said:
I have struggled with weight my whole life like most here. I made the decision and then told my mom ( who has always been very negative about my weight. She even a few times suggest the surgery which I flatly refused). I was shocked when she wasn't supportive at first. Now I am almost four months out and it is like she told me to do it. People will come around. You have to make the right decision for you! Don't let anyone talk you out of it and don't feel you have to defend your decision either.
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