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Soft food sadness

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Intelligentslug

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I started eating soft foods a few days ago. At first I was on cloud 9 and thrilled after liquids fir 3 weeks but all if a sudden I feel very sad. I am facing the fact that I will never be able to eat “normally” again. I know it is normal to have a grieving process and I assume 6 months or so down the road this will be the new normal but right now I am sad. Any words if support and comfort from those that have come before me?
 
Your body is going through a lot of changes physically and emotionally. What you are feeling is very normal. That said, everyone's experience is a little different, but I am one year post op and feel that I eat normally. I eat a wide variety of foods I enjoy, monitoring my portions, but it's not awkward in social settings as I feared. Be patient and kind towards yourself. I chew my food well, eat slower, take food home, enjoy leftovers, but it all feels normal to me. Hang in there!
 
Just before my 2 year WLS anniversary I went into a funky feeling about meals, what is a meal now, still haven’t really resolved my issues but am sure I will get there. Husband always wanted the meal: meat-potatoes-veggies-dessert, and all the snacks along the way, don’t forget the soda, ice cream, chips you name it. Since he passed in April, I am more comfortable with my eating plan/restrictions which helps. But at my 2 year checkup dr wants more milk/ and meat proteins in my diet, I am having a hard time getting it in. I will get there, of this I am confident. Just don’t like making my protein shakes and throwing 3/4 of it away. So trying to find a balance there. Been baking my own protein brownies and protein cookies when I can (in between projects: yard work, paper sifting, going through husband’s effects, pool is on hold this year for parts….). This is a journey that is for life, not a “diet”. Set backs happen and progress happens. Know that others are here for you. To encourage you, to support you.
 
Yes, sadness is normal. You are grieving food, thinking you'll never have the freedom to eat what you want. This is not true. You will never be able to eat the sheer quantity of food you once ate. (which by the way, is not eating "normally") But good food will still be enjoyed in your future! Even the occasional dessert is okay.
 
missyinacage said:
Yes, sadness is normal. You are grieving food, thinking you'll never have the freedom to eat what you want. This is not true. You will never be able to eat the sheer quantity of food you once ate. (which by the way, is not eating "normally") But good food will still be enjoyed in your future! Even the occasional dessert is okay.
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Can you share what it means to enjoy food in the future. What and how much do you actually eat at a meal? Your comments above really captured what I am feeling.
 
Well, a normal day of food for me is 3/4 C overnight oatmeal (cocoa banana flavored)
Lunch is usually a chicken and Swiss wrap (low carb tortilla). Snack is 1/2 C yogurt, 1/2 C berries 1/4 C cereal for crunch. 2nd snack is cottage cheese or hummus. Dinner is much more varied, as my NY resolution was to try 1 new recipe a week. I can eat about 3oz of protein and some veg. If it's stew, soup or casserole style, I can eat about a cup. Which is actually suggested serving size for adults.

That being said, I just got back from a trip to Paris. I ate a croissant every morning, shared a baguette sandwich every afternoon and stopped for a sinfully rich desert every night. I also walked 10 miles a day, LITERALLY, and came home weighing the same. So you know I ate a lot!!!

You will have to make healthy choices the majority of the time, but you will be able to splurge on occasion. Even at home, I hit the local ice cream parlor about once a month.

The point is, I am not doing without. And you won't have to either. You just can't eat everything bad for you all the time.
 
missyinacage said:
Well, a normal day of food for me is 3/4 C overnight oatmeal (cocoa banana flavored)
Lunch is usually a chicken and Swiss wrap (low carb tortilla). Snack is 1/2 C yogurt, 1/2 C berries 1/4 C cereal for crunch. 2nd snack is cottage cheese or hummus. Dinner is much more varied, as my NY resolution was to try 1 new recipe a week. I can eat about 3oz of protein and some veg. If it's stew, soup or casserole style, I can eat about a cup. Which is actually suggested serving size for adults.

That being said, I just got back from a trip to Paris. I ate a croissant every morning, shared a baguette sandwich every afternoon and stopped for a sinfully rich desert every night. I also walked 10 miles a day, LITERALLY, and came home weighing the same. So you know I ate a lot!!!

You will have to make healthy choices the majority of the time, but you will be able to splurge on occasion. Even at home, I hit the local ice cream parlor about once a month.

The point is, I am not doing without. And you won't have to either. You just can't eat everything bad for you all the time.
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Right now everything feels so uncomfortable. 3 bites and it feels like Ive been punched in the stomach. When will my stomach start to feel better?
 
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