Hello 'May' and welcome to the group. You will find lots of support & encouragement, and none of the judgmental comments from many other social media outlets.
You will not receive a substitute for sound medical advice, just comments based on our personal experiences.
Have you researched the various surgical weight loss options or reached out to any programs in your area? In the meantime, one of the healthiest options almost anyone can try is to increase your water intake to at least 64 ozs daily, and begin to wean yourself off of sodas, diet drinks, and caffeinated beverages. Water can help you feel satisfied when you are actually thirsty rather than hungry.
Making a few small changes gradually can help you prepare for possible weight loss surgery if you choose that path. Maybe try a protein shake (20-30 gms) for a snack; drinking it slowly over 15 min to 1/2 hour will give you a chance to feel a bit more satisfied than a sweet or salty carb-laden snack.
One other tip is to begin laying down your fork or spoon between bites, and chew slowly as you learn to savor each bite. It can give your brain time to feel full while you eat, instead of when you finish your meal. Those who have weight-loss surgery must take 30-45 min to eat.
Again, these are just a few things I've learned here over the past several months. Please take care, God bless, and keep in touch. You will be among caring friends here. ❤