Kathi, I'm sorry you're still not feeling well. I hate that it is taking so long for them to get you well. Although I am very happy to hear that the girls, and especially your grandson, are coming for Christmas. Bonus points that you don't have to cook LOL My son comes by every year and fluffs the tree branches for me, since I hate that part. It takes FOREVER to get them right, so maybe it's good you're going slow
Diane, I am so sorry to hear that the holidays are so rough on you. It always saddens me that so many are unhappy. Even though I can certainly understand it. Life piles on over the years, until it sometimes feels like you're buried by it. There are so many memories around holidays and not all of them are good, even in the most loving families. I cry every year I put my tree up, placing ornaments that used to belong to loved ones now gone, listening to my first Christmas CD given to me by an aunt who passed when I was a child. And my husband's father and my closest aunt both passed away within a week before Xmas (different years). Add in decorating, shopping, baking etc and it can get exhausting.
That being said, I love it. The glow of the Christmas lights softens reality for me. It's like booze but without the side effects lol So, just know that I will be thinking of you with love this season. If you are feeling alone, or fed up, just know that there are people out here, for I'm sure I'm not the only one, wishing you peace and happiness. Also, respond to your friend. At the end of the day, friends are just as important as family and worth the effort.