I had the surgery done October 28 of 25 and got weighed yesterday to fond out im oy down like 25 to 30 pounds
I feel like a loser
Welcome to the group. I think you're the only person who can answer this question, but there's a technique that might help you on that investigation. Keep a food journal.
Get a little blank notebook and on every day, write down everything you eat, even if it's only a few crumbs from the bottom of the cookie jar. Every. Single. Thing.
And to keep yourself honest, use a small scale, measuring cups and spoons and weigh everything before you put it on your plate.
You can keep track of your calories if you want, but it's more important to measure your portion size and the number of times you eat every day. Also, measure out 8 cups of water into a pitcher. Start your day with an 8 ounce glass before you eat any solid food. Tell yourself it's your responsibility to drink the entire pitcher before bedtime. Water is an amazing weight loss accelerator and most people don't drink enough in a day.
Weighing, measuring, planning and tracking are the most important things you can do to lose weight. Well, there is one more important thing: honesty. You need to be honest with yourself, to be a warrior against the overeating monster that's so powerful and doesn't give a damn about you. It needs you to fail so it can succeed.
And look at what it's doing: "I feel like a loser." Ta-da! The monster is winning. To have had this very serious surgery but only lose 25 pounds in six months it's obvious the math isn't making sense, so start keeping a journal. Also, every time you call yourself a name, the monster wins again. Who's on YOUR side?
You should also be seeing a nutritionist and probably a mental health counselor who can support you. You need people who are on YOUR side. You CAN win. You CAN defeat the monster. You already took an enormous step by having the surgery. Please take the next steps of loving and supporting yourself by fighting against the negative powers that are trying to sabotage every good thing you've done.
Keeping track doesn't mean you even need to believe in yourself, or that you deserve better than what you're getting. It's just a way for you to see reality so you don't have to question yourself or your choices. Just start by keeping track. When you see the truth of why you're not losing more weight, real success will follow. Journal. Water. Small steps. YOU CAN DO THIS.
