Depressed?

[Bill S.]

I don’t know how to put this but I guess you could say i‘ve been depressed for a couple of weeks now. I guess ,we’ll I know I miss some of the foods I used to enjoy like this past week at a Universal Studios and 3 days of going to Disneyland. My wifes family that came to visit and go with us knew I had the surgery so it was no problem from them . The problem was I missed having a hamburger on a bun and fries instead of eating just a plain burger while everyone else was eating regularly. I missed Disneylands famous corn dogs which I love and there corn chowder in a sourdough bowl and the pizza while I ate just a small salad. Missed having steak when we barbecued today . I had yet another plain burger with some grilled pineapple ( I did like that ) and I had some potato chips without any problems. But I’m tired most of all of eating the same things over and over because there is no variety . Also nothing tastes the same either or smells funny and there’s also a bad taste n my mouth during the day and stomach gets sore. Yeah I knew what I was getting into I knew the repucusssions I know I have to live like this and I’m damn glad I’m losing weight. Constantly looking up different ways to eat the things I can eat . I’m picky don’t like chicken or fish. I have had tacos that i like at a Mexican restaurant a couple of times but even those taste different. My normal week of foods are refried beans, chilli,eggs,egg salad,deli meat wrapped around cheese, salads,cottage cheese and yogurt. M not that hungry anymore sometimes skipping a meal or two. I think I already know what im going to hear from everyone but I am kinda reaching out. So not to happy lately and like I said I knew what I was in for .

 

[mmitti]

Bill, I hear you about eating a very limited variety of food. I'm going through the same thing. I limit even more to keep my blood sugar from going up. I'm going through a bit of a grieving process over not being able to eat as I did before. Good for you for articulating your feelings.
I haven't eaten out yet. I'll be going to lunch with some friends in the next couple weeks.

 

[3momchaos]

I am trying as best as I can to prepare myself for this. I love food, I am a good cook, and there are a million drive thru places around my house, so the only thing that will stop me from cooking whatever I want or pulling in for fast food is my own will power. I’m kind of going through a “goodbye for a while” with a lot of foods that I know I won’t be eating for a long time after surgery. Will I be able to eventually? Sure. But for a couple years I am going to revamp the way I think about food, what’s worth eating, and why I am eating it. I’ve already planned on not baking this holiday season, bringing something I know I can eat for potlucks, and arming myself with protein drinks for when I go out to eat. My plan is to drink it in the car before I go into any restaurant, so when I order, I can order small or split a plate with someone I am with. I am honestly nervous about food depression. I just want to try taking steps to avoid it, but I know there will be times when I will be genuinely sad that I am missing out on something.

 

Bill, I am not eating much of what I want these days either. I look in the mirror and see the benefits I already have received. I have more energy, I have lost 8-10 inches in my waist, I'm not too tired to stay up late (I saw the shows and late night comedy shows on a cruise last week!). I'm missing out on the food portion of life (tough seeing all the tasty food on the ship), but I am not going to give in to temptations and lose all my gains.

I went to a personal trainer for months and got healthier until my knees gave out. All my gains were lost and I am NOT going to do that to my body again. You're strong and can make it through the bad days. Think of the good ones to come.

 

[mmitti]

I am trying as best as I can to prepare myself for this. I love food, I am a good cook, and there are a million drive thru places around my house, so the only thing that will stop me from cooking whatever I want or pulling in for fast food is my own will power. I’m kind of going through a “goodbye for a while” with a lot of foods that I know I won’t be eating for a long time after surgery. Will I be able to eventually? Sure. But for a couple years I am going to revamp the way I think about food, what’s worth eating, and why I am eating it. I’ve already planned on not baking this holiday season, bringing something I know I can eat for potlucks, and arming myself with protein drinks for when I go out to eat. My plan is to drink it in the car before I go into any restaurant, so when I order, I can order small or split a plate with someone I am with. I am honestly nervous about food depression. I just want to try taking steps to avoid it, but I know there will be times when I will be genuinely sad that I am missing out on something.

I'm learning that it's OK to have food depression. It means I am changing. If I allow myself to really feel the feelings, they run through me and out, leaving me calm.

 

[3momchaos]

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I'm learning that it's OK to have food depression. It means I am changing. If I allow myself to really feel the feelings, they run through me and out, leaving me calm.

I love this because it’s remembering that there is light through the dark. I know that’s a little serious, but honestly, what a lot of us have gone through or are going through with our weight is so psychological. We’re depressed so we eat. We eat because we’re depressed. But not indulging and refraining from what we want may cause a temporary depression, but in the end we are so much better physically and mentally. This journey is a test.

 

[The BLJ]

Bill this weight loss journey is a marathon , it is not a brisk walk. The marathon training will try to break you and tell you can not do it. But you must push yourself because if you don’t no one else will.
Food is not a giver of happiness this is a quote I repeat to my self over and over during this journey.
Food is to nourish and fuel your body. Sorry to tell but there are no redeeming qualities in a corn dog. But if you want you will have to wait for the time being to allow your body to heal.
Surgery is a trauma and your body and spirit need to heal.
This to shall pass. Be strong and focus on the positive things in your life. Look for something to be grateful for today.
Here are the 11 stages of running a marathon
Excitement

Nervousness

Apprehension

Eagerness

Community

Questioning of Sanity

Defeat

Prayer/Begging

Determination/Willpower

Grit/Toughness

Elation

 

[Badgy]

Bill,

Everyone here has great advice, I'm just here to give you a hug.

 

[Badgy]

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I love this because it’s remembering that there is light through the dark. I know that’s a little serious, but honestly, what a lot of us have gone through or are going through with our weight is so psychological. We’re depressed so we eat. We eat because we’re depressed. But not indulging and refraining from what we want may cause a temporary depression, but in the end we are so much better physically and mentally. This journey is a test.

It's an brutal cycle, isn't it? Defies logic, yet...

 

[Brenda2010]

I don’t know how to put this but I guess you could say i‘ve been depressed for a couple of weeks now. I guess ,we’ll I know I miss some of the foods I used to enjoy like this past week at a Universal Studios and 3 days of going to Disneyland. My wifes family that came to visit and go with us knew I had the surgery so it was no problem from them . The problem was I missed having a hamburger on a bun and fries instead of eating just a plain burger while everyone else was eating regularly. I missed Disneylands famous corn dogs which I love and there corn chowder in a sourdough bowl and the pizza while I ate just a small salad. Missed having steak when we barbecued today . I had yet another plain burger with some grilled pineapple ( I did like that ) and I had some potato chips without any problems. But I’m tired most of all of eating the same things over and over because there is no variety . Also nothing tastes the same either or smells funny and there’s also a bad taste n my mouth during the day and stomach gets sore. Yeah I knew what I was getting into I knew the repucusssions I know I have to live like this and I’m damn glad I’m losing weight. Constantly looking up different ways to eat the things I can eat . I’m picky don’t like chicken or fish. I have had tacos that i like at a Mexican restaurant a couple of times but even those taste different. My normal week of foods are refried beans, chilli,eggs,egg salad,deli meat wrapped around cheese, salads,cottage cheese and yogurt. M not that hungry anymore sometimes skipping a meal or two. I think I already know what im going to hear from everyone but I am kinda reaching out. So not to happy lately and like I said I knew what I was in for .

I'm so glad that you reached out Bill, almost all of us go through this. As Diane wrote, this denial of your favorite foods is only temporary. I'm almost a year out and at this point will have a taste or small portion of anything that I want. You'll get there, it gets normal again, I promise! My first 6 months were very strict but it also resulted in almost all my weight loss so I wouldn't trade it for anything.

The past few months, I've been eating normally, just way less of whatever it is. I went to lunch with my sister and nieces this weekend since I've been stuck in the house for weeks. The kids wanted Friendly's. I ordered a burger (on a bun) and onion rings. It was a splurge meal for sure, with very little nutritional value but it's what I wanted. Since I kept the bun, I was only able to eat a few bites of the burger but it was good! And I had 2 onion rings. My waitress asked if everything was ok when she cleared our plates since mine was barely touched but it really was good, I just couldn't eat much of it. And I didn't feel one bit guilty since it's a once in a blue moon thing. You'll get there!!! Time will fly and you'll be enjoying normal foods again.

 

[Bill S.]

Sorry late for this post was at the beach with wife’s relatives and barbecue. Anyway Diane my dr. Suggested I get surgery a year ago after a slew of diet failures. I got the ok for the 12 week classes and I was well prepared to get the surgery after the classes and the wait. What I didn’t know was having bad taste in my mouth all the time ,brushing my teeth feeling like I’m going to barf all the time and stomach aches when I’m eating anything even the foods I’m supposed to be eating. I’m really trying my best to eat the right foods and the right amount.Theres times most of the time in fact I don’t know if I’m full or hungry. So i need to try harder and just stick it out longer till I can eat regular again but responsible. Also I like the almost new look I have I’m getting there with looser clothes just wish my stomach would go thinner though instead of starting to hang lower. Even lost a shoe size! And since last June I’ve lost around a total of 84 pounds I think. Now losing only 2 sometimes 3 pounds a week. Don’t know if that’s normal or not. And today at the beach barbecue I had vitamin water zero a skinless hotdog ( no bun ) and some baked beans my wife made from a bariatric cook book so their you go.

 

[amimpannell]

For alot of us me included when I snack and eat junk food I feel better and happy. So there will be a sadness when we are not eating the foods that make us happy. For me I loved my hot cheetos and a Dr. Pepper.

 

[Brenda2010]

Just for information, The Friendly's All-American Burger is full of protein. 39 grams, and that's without cheese!

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And Brenda, you probably only took in a couple hundred calories, even though you splurged:

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Woo-hoo, bonus! Thanks for looking it up Diane!!!

 

[Bill S.]

Hot Cheetos and Dr. Pepper wow sounds like heartburn ! But also sounds kinda good although I used to drink Coke with cheetos

 

[Bill S.]

Thanks Diane for the good words of advice! My hair hasn’t started to fall out yet so as long as it’s long it will stay long even though the girl that cuts my hair regularly kinda cut it a little shorter than I like

 

[Bill S.]

I already take Omeprazole been taking for a while and yeah I some times don’t chew my food all the way in fact I can’t get used to eating slow but I’m trying

 

[HBOO]

Hooray, Bill, on losing 84 pounds! That is so freakin awesome.

I know we say this all the time, but your body will normalize when it's ready, and the bad taste will go away, you won't have any nausea and you'll have tons of energy.

The bad taste is something a lot of people experience and there is a therapeutic way to lessen it:

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I have both of these brands in my bathroom, as well as the generic form of Scope. It's tedious to use them because you have to wait before you can brush your teeth or use another mouthwash, but these mouthwashes contain a form of industrialized bleach, which you can smell a little, but they WORK.

Not only do they deal with bad breath, they change the flora of the mouth and that helps decrease any bad taste.

I also lost weight in my feet! Crazy, huh? I lost a ring size, too. People will lose weight in different parts of their bodies and it's weird when it happens. You've been so compliant, it's almost scary to read your posts sometimes.

You've consistent lost about 30 pounds a month, and you're still sticking to it. For those of us who are single or don't cook for a family or friends, the weight loss is usually greater, but the important thing for you is that it's been consistent over a LONG time.

Congratulations, as well, on becoming a Bariatric Guru! That's so awesome. You give great advice and share your story honestly and well. You've become a real asset to this group, and you know how much I personally enjoy our raps. Thank you for being here. I'm sure the other men in the group are also even more grateful for your presence. Brotherhood!

I just have one question for you: when are you going to spike your hair? You know I'm joking, but it would be a good look for you, honestly. When you get to your goal with spiked hair, you could look like Sting!

Thanks for sharing the mouth wash info. I have an awful taste in my mouth all the time too, and it's so dry! I got some dry mouth spray, but needed something for the icky taste. Bleh!

 

[HBOO]

I don’t know how to put this but I guess you could say i‘ve been depressed for a couple of weeks now. I guess ,we’ll I know I miss some of the foods I used to enjoy like this past week at a Universal Studios and 3 days of going to Disneyland. My wifes family that came to visit and go with us knew I had the surgery so it was no problem from them . The problem was I missed having a hamburger on a bun and fries instead of eating just a plain burger while everyone else was eating regularly. I missed Disneylands famous corn dogs which I love and there corn chowder in a sourdough bowl and the pizza while I ate just a small salad. Missed having steak when we barbecued today . I had yet another plain burger with some grilled pineapple ( I did like that ) and I had some potato chips without any problems. But I’m tired most of all of eating the same things over and over because there is no variety . Also nothing tastes the same either or smells funny and there’s also a bad taste n my mouth during the day and stomach gets sore. Yeah I knew what I was getting into I knew the repucusssions I know I have to live like this and I’m damn glad I’m losing weight. Constantly looking up different ways to eat the things I can eat . I’m picky don’t like chicken or fish. I have had tacos that i like at a Mexican restaurant a couple of times but even those taste different. My normal week of foods are refried beans, chilli,eggs,egg salad,deli meat wrapped around cheese, salads,cottage cheese and yogurt. M not that hungry anymore sometimes skipping a meal or two. I think I already know what im going to hear from everyone but I am kinda reaching out. So not to happy lately and like I said I knew what I was in for .

I'm with you, Bill. The same things day in and day out. Thanks for saying what I was thinking. Wow, I would just love to have a corn dog. I have a feeling I will get over it when I am released to go back to work and don't have as much time on my hands to worry about what's for lunch anymore. Hope you are feeling groovy soon too.

 

[Bill S.]

Yeah I miss those foods but going to have to wait till later on . I might not even like them later anyway but at least we can eat a small amount later

 

[Badgy]

Back in my pop days, mostly 90's, I was a My Dew girl... all the way! With Cheetohs or Cheerios. Lol