On the fence about surgery

[Cattlemomma]

Thanks for your posts everyone. I am new to this journey and have not scheduled surgery yet but we are looking at sleeve. I have my phyc eval next Friday and my nutrition hours required next 3 weeks. I am scared but really want to have energy again and feel well. Anyone have any suggestions or advice?

 

[Book1sh]

Usually you do the surgery because nothing else is working. I knew I was unhealthy heading for diabetes, fatty liver disease, and heart disease. I didn’t want to use the new drugs out because I felt they weren’t tested long enough. Who knows what side effects will happen in 5 years. Plus I heard if you stop taking them your weight goes up.
I had my surgery end of summer 2025 and I’m about 5 months out. I had a hard time at first mentally because my head wanted more food but my stomach wouldn’t allow it. I resented not eating a lot of even the good food but I’m slowly getting used to how much I can eat.
I also was bummed out because I thought I would lose weight really fast and I didn’t. I consistently lose one or two pounds a week now. I am resigned to that slowness now but at first I wanted to lose weight fast.
Hey, how about the fact that my knees are better? My feet don’t hurt anymore. I can wipe my butt without contortions. It’s so nice to move easier and not be treated like (well you probably know how fat people get treated). I can go swimming without feeling people are staring at me behind my back.
Anyway, here’s the pros and cons according to someone who is 5 months out.

 

[dianeseattle]

I can wipe my butt without contortions.

Before I had surgery, I joined Weight Watchers groups repeatedly. WW is a business whose path to success is to brainwash members into believing they're succeeding by failing over and over.

I remember saying one day that I was really ashamed because I'd gotten so fat around my abdomen and buttocks that I couldn't wipe my ass without using some kind of extension to hold the toilet paper.

Those bitches, who, in Seattle metro, all came from the Eastside, had spouses who worked at Microsoft, could afford cosmetic surgery and weekly salon visits, etc., all just groaned and made vomit sounds, mocking me and even personally sharing their disgust of me face to face after the meeting.

In this little online group, where I've been since 2007, I've felt love, respect, shared grief, support and quiet acceptance that has empowered me to succeed and never fall off the path to success.

Newbies, pre- or post- op, put yourself FIRST. Self-hatred and brainwashing is how you lost your way in the first place. You are important, and in every way, you are beautiful. This is the truth and it's in your heart and mind. Take time to remind yourself that you deserve love and health every day. And share where it's safe to share, like in THIS group. You will never be judged.

 

[Book1sh]

Thanks! I like to be real. I know that there’s a lot of people out there who know what I mean

 

[Carolinamom75]

Yes, I was on the fence for years about the surgery due to my employer not covering weight loss medication but will cover the surgery..crazy right!
But this is the only option for me, because I can not afford the Wegovy and Zepbound out of pocket.