Seeking support

[Michelecali]

Hi everyone

I’m Michele, I had RNY surgery on 9/2/20. I am finding myself with no one to really talk to about my eating issues or lack there of. My SW was 298 CW is 250, I’m feeling great but I find myself not wanting to talk to my friends of family about my journey. I need like minded/been through it people but with covid it’s hard to find support. Anyone who has any resources or suggestions I’m here

 

[LisaLisa]

You're in the right place! look though the recent posts, search for specific issues, and you'll find lots of us to share your journey. Welcome to the group!

 

[Michelecali]

You're in the right place! look though the recent posts, search for specific issues, and you'll find lots of us to share your journey. Welcome to the group!

Thank you!

 

[3momchaos]

Welcome! I had RNY on October 26th. I can find it hard to talk to people about it, but anytime they have questions I’m happy to answer, especially when I know someone might be interested in the surgery. The only person I know personally that had the sleeve has gained all the weight back, so it’s hard talking to her.

 

[Michelecali]

Thanks! I’m finding that people who are old friends are not that caring about my health or they just want to know the numbers. I need people that understand.

 

[3momchaos]

Thanks! I’m finding that people who are old friends are not that caring about my health or they just want to know the numbers. I need people that understand.

I can totally relate to that. “There’s a lot of, how much have you lost so far?”before, “How are you feeling/doing?” I get the curiosity with the weight loss, but well being is way more important. We aren’t just going through a lot physically, we’re going through a lot mentally.

 

[JudyNY]

Welcome Michele! This is a great group with lots of supportive people here. You've come to the right place! Feel free to ask questions.

 

[Michelecali]

Welcome Michele! This is a great group with lots of supportive people here. You've come to the right place! Feel free to ask questions.

Thank you
I got through thanksgiving and I’m still just taking it as it comes.
after 3 months I’m starting to feel stronger andim Ready to start doing more and learning how to eat, do you all have sites you use for recipes and dishes that are small and taste good? I’m getting sick eggs and beans!

 

[JudyNY]

There is a facebook group that I follow called "Bariatric/WLS Friendly Recipes - Low Carb & Low/No Sugar." There is also a section here that has recipes that people have shared. I find it helps to use either a crock pot or an instant pot for cooking meats as it makes it very tender and juicy.

 

[LisaLisa]

What an awesome weight loss, Michele! If nothing else, you now will be going into the new year with one less thing to make a resolution to do: lose weight. I hope you are overjoyed and that there are other people who will see that in you. Own it, girlfriend! You deserve your happy holidays!

Another NSV--no more weightloss resolutions! yay!

 

[missyinacage]

I look up recipes on pinterest or allrecipes.com. Pretty much anything can be resized to smaller portions and I really like to freeze leftovers in single servings so I can grab and go for work lunches. I have also found that people love to talk "numbers", which mostly ends with some variation of "wow, you were fat!" And I think it's easier to be in an online support group. In person, it can become too comparative. I have a coworker that tells me EVERY TIME she sees me at lunch how little she can still eat, 2 years out. Because I said I get all my protein without shakes, she seems to think I am overeating. She can only "choke down 2 bites of a (deep fried) chicken sandwich" or a "1/2 slice of pizza". Which is probably the same weight as my 2 to 3oz of lean, slow cooked protein. But, apparently her idea of supportive is to remind me not to eat and stalk what I bought at the vending machine. (It was almonds.)

 

[LisaLisa]

Because I said I get all my protein without shakes, she seems to think I am overeating. She can only "choke down 2 bites of a (deep fried) chicken sandwich" or a "1/2 slice of pizza". Which is probably the same weight as my 2 to 3oz of lean, slow cooked protein. But, apparently her idea of supportive is to remind me not to eat and stalk what I bought at the vending machine. (It was almonds.)

Oh HAIL no! That would be the last time she talked to me. I would shut that down immediately--tell her you don't need to share your journey with her and to keep her comments to herself. (I'm sure I'd find some snarky but funny way to say it, like, "Gosh Joanne, I can't believe you spend so much time thinking about what I'm eating!" Yes, I said "gosh." I'm from Wisconsin.)